So how often should he be allowed to cum?
Traditional Chinese medicine teaches the following:
“A man may attain health and longevity if he practices an ejaculation frequency of twice monthly or 24 times a year. If at the same time he pays careful attention to proper diet and exercise he will have a long healthy life.” link
The longer text (yes, I read it all) states that men should ejaculate about 20-30% of the time that they have sexual intercourse. For those bad at math, that is 2-3 times for every ten times. Additionally, men older than 50 should not ejaculate more than once every 20 days. Men over 60 should not ejaculate more than once every 100 days. The rules keep coming but they also base ejaculation on the seasons with no ejaculations during winter, no more than twice a month during summer and autumn and no more than every 3 days during spring.
Lots of rules here and while I am no practitioner of eastern medicine I do agree with some of their findings. I don’t think that you need to make his ejaculation into a science but I do think the daily jerking needs to stop.
It does make a distinction that sex needn’t be reduced, sex can be as frequent as his partner wishes (thank goodness) but the frequency he is permitted an orgasm should be controlled. Sex without ejaculation does take some practice but it isn’t long before he looks to you for permission before cumming or knows that ejaculation should almost never accompany sex as is the understanding that I have with my boyfriend. Some of male sexual conditioning is unconscious in nature but we all know when our guy is getting close. We just need to slow him down and let him take a breather, he can usually try again when he isn’t so worked up or you can end sex and direct him to perform oral on you.
Testosterone increases nearly 155% when a man doesn’t ejaculate for just seven days which is why we typically schedule our ejaculations 7 days apart. Lower testosterone levels are attributed to lower overall health and dementia in men so there are plenty of reasons to keep your guy healthy by limiting keeping his creative juices under control.
For the first day, he will act normal with his cage being a mere annoyance. Typically the second or third day he will be cranky or irritable. This is the period when this goes from a fetishy game to a lifestyle and he starts to understand that he is not in control. While it may be annoying at first, I’ve learned to laugh it off now that I know the science behind what is going on.