It seems that quite a few guys that have commented and messaged me are not submissive men by any stretch of the word. These men are sensible men with high powered jobs, lots of authority and presumably large salaries to go along with that power in the workplace. It seems that many of these men have pursued chastity with their girlfriends and wives.
I wonder if his desire for orgasm denial stems from wanting to be controlled in this aspect of his life. Perhaps it stems from the fact that he acknowledges that his wife/girlfriend isn’t an employee that he can order around and must submit to her whim to experience sex with her. His desire may be a reminder to his subconscious that she holds the sexual power in the relationship. Maybe it has something to do with temptation in the workplace, guys with high workplace status tend to be seen as attractive by women. If they are turning down advances of coworkers, maybe their pursuit of chastity is an admission of their fear of giving in to temptation in the workplace.
Perhaps this is an expression of his helplessness in initiating sexual activity. Most of these guys do indicate that they have a much higher sex drive than their other half. This is a way to cope with that disparity in sex drive without feeling inadequate or perhaps it is a way for them to deal with feelings of inadequacy in this part of their life despite feeling adequate in every other capacity. Maybe this is a way for him to solidify her role in the relationship as if to create a formal means to promote her to “Manager of Sex” in the relationship. Is the cage an admission that he chooses to be with her in spite of frustration due to their lack of sexual compatibility?
I will be the first to say that I’ve had some flings with incredibly attractive dummies but I’ve always found it to be a one and done. I’ve only really dated smart guys because I am turned on by thought provoking conversation. I don’t ever want a guy that I feel like I am talking down to. I wonder if smarter guys are more prone to be interested in allowing the female to take control of at least the sexual side of the relationship.
My own experience has told me that guys who have smaller penises tend to be more kinky while the guys with larger ding dongs tend to be more vanilla. I wonder if sexual kinks are a way of dealing with feelings of inadequacy or boosting self-worth/self image. Is this a sexual kink or is it the opposite?
This CEO type of guy pretty much sums up Kevin. His friends wouldn’t describe him as submissive. He doesn’t suddenly become my submissive when I am around. If we argue, he has a reminder to keep his testosterone from controlling his emotions. If he is disrespectful to me or doesn’t hold up his end of commitments he knows that I have some consequences at my disposal and I absolutely will exercise my right to do so. If he is unlocked, he starts to get resentful and snippy with me after three to four days. If locked the opposite happens. I think this is related to subconscious feelings that he should be in control since he isn’t locked. Locking him seems to completely resolve this type of behavior so we are typically on very regular schedule that you can read more about in past blogs.
Just some random thoughts for your Wednesday. Anyone have any thoughts? Agree? Disagree? Have a haiku that you want to share? Does your guy have a different profile than the “CEO”? If so, let’s discuss in the comments.