How do I feel about porn?
I don’t have a problem with porn. In fact I enjoy watching porn. I don’t feel like it is demeaning to women. I don’t have religious objections to porn.
Male stimulation is primarily visual and men are very easily desensitized to the images that they see. When he is unlocked, porn and masturbation go hand in hand (or penis in hand). When the old padlock is on his willy, porn and discomfort go hand in hand. For that reason, I strictly ban porn when he is unlocked but when he is locked, it doesn’t bother me. I know that when he is locked, all he can feel is a tight sensation in the cage and that makes me smile.
We even include porn in our play sometimes. I’ll take his cage off, make him sit on his hands and we will watch porn together on his computer. He is strictly forbidden from touching himself during that time although I sometimes give it a tug or two. I like flipping through different kinds of porn and watching it throb, get soft, stand straight up. I really enjoy when we watch something outside of his comfort zone and see how ashamed he is when he gets while we watch it. There is really no lying about what he finds sexy and who he finds attractive. It can be great fun and an enormous tease for the poor guy.
During of these play sessions, he is never allowed to cum. Ejaculation and is always associated with me and my pussy. One of the things that Yoga Girl’s FLR101 blog taught is how essential the associative bond between my lady parts and his boy parts must be in our relationship. I typically only allow him to ejaculate while sitting on his knees in front of me while I masturbate for him. As I’ve mentioned in past blogs, I don’t allow him to ejaculate inside of me because I don’t want accidents to occur during our normal play. We do have an active, healthy sex life but he is strictly forbidden from releasing during sex.
Porn is not limited to what we can find on the internet, 70’s magazines and old VHS tapes. In my definition, porn is his viewing of anything that he finds arousing that isn’t me. I find his arousal and subsequent denial while locked amusing. I also find that when he realizes his denial, his eyes always avert to me when I am present. For example, one of our cages has soft silicone spikes in it and he wears that one from time to time. I take delight when he receives an immediate correction when he is looking at something he shouldn’t be looking at. I also enjoy teasing him and seeing his reaction when he can’t keep his body from trying to get hard.
He enjoys this almost as much as I do, the game of arousal control is fun for both of us. Don’t get me wrong, he never requests the spiked cage but when I set that one out for him on Monday mornings, he knows that he is in for a week of teasing and frustration.
So hopefully that explains my take on porn. It is yet another tool in my orgasm control toolkit.
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Interesting. You are essentially using his penis as a lie detector for his sexual attractions. A man can lie about his penis, but his penis will not lie about the man.
Well said. Yes that is one of the games that we play. We’ve watched quite a bit of stuff that has surprised me with his arousal level. He likes to fall back to the “it’s hard because you are watching with me”. Hah.
Your’e right that guys are visually stimulated. Very good perspective you have on porn in general. It seems women often get turned off by porn due to comparisons to the persons on the screen. But your method of watching is interesting as you can find out more about what fantasies live in his head! I think all of us can envision things, or get turned on by seeing something, that we’d never actually do. That’s what makes it fun to share sometimes.