What Is Locktober?

Locktober is the challenge that couples do each year to see how much sex controls their relationship. Sex is a wonderful part of a relationship and I am an enormous advocate. Sex shouldn’t be the basis of interactions with your significant other. Locktober is a challenge to put his sex drive aside come together as one. During locktober, he will abstain from both sex and masturbation for the entire month of October. Typically this is extremely difficult so most couples decide to use a device to help.

If you are participating in Locktober, just leave a comment below and let us know. Follow up with how many days you were able to make it. Hopefully everyone is shooting for thirty one days!

Introduction – What is Chastity?

What is the point?

Sex is great! Most of us absolutely love sex but it isn’t we are about. As couples we connect on a deep level and we aren’t always trying to convince our partner to hop into bed. Do you remember how things used to be? Back at the beginning of your relationship, he was courting you. He treated you differently and as time went on, he started treating you like one of the guys. You aren’t one of the guys (even if you are a gay couple), you are his partner. After he accepts the changes and stops fighting it, you will see courtship make an appearance back in your relationship.

That’s where male chastity comes in the the equation. Male chastity is the control of his orgasms for the benefit of your relationship.

Male Sex Hormones

Male Hormones

As you make your way through the month together, you will find that his hormonal balance changes significantly. How significantly? He will quite literally become a different guy as his body accepts his hormonal changes. As the month progresses, his male machismo will lessen and he will become a bit more submissive. Being submissive isn’t a bad thing and most guys would be well served to explore their submissive side a bit more.

Male Chastity: The Joys of Teasing Him

Teasing

Teasing is important, this isn’t about ignoring his penis and his needs for a month! This is about embracing physical needs but limiting the sexual release that he is accustomed to receiving at the end of each interaction.

Call me a sadist but teasing and playing with his frustration is wonderfully fun. Emotions are so interesting and frustration is no different. The more you play and tease, the more amplified the effects will be.

What Kind of Man

What Kind of Man

What kind of man would do this? Any guy who would let his significant other lock his penis up is nuts!

I would argue that a guy who wouldn’t make a small sacrifice for his relationship is less of a man than a guy who would. The intimacy and the opportunity that you have to grow together is priceless! Of course it will be a challenge for him and you will be there to comfort and guide him through the month with your support.

Where Do I Start?

This isn’t about some sort of weird fetish, it can be done just by asking him to keep his hands off his equipment for a month. Much harder said than done, most men will require some help to ensure that they don’t cut the month short. Luckily the “equipment” is easily and discreetly acquired online and delivered to your door. Just an inexpensive plastic resin cage is a great way to get started. The plastic ones are a great place to start and they come with a cute little key designed to keep him honest. As you can probably imagine, at first it will be uncomfortable for him and most guys will try to manipulate their way out of it.

After the first three days, everything will gradually improve until he subconsciously accepts it. After the fifth or sixth day, you will notice significant personality changes due to the hormonal changes mentioned above. You’ve got to remember, most guys have masturbated every day since he noticed the little thing dangling between his legs when he was a teenager.

Sweet Release

You Made It!

On November 1st, you will both be able to enjoy the fruits of your labor when he is allowed to release his pent up excitement. You may decide to go a bit longer and that is up to you. The nice thing about having the device is that the keys are truly in your hands. If you do decide that the time is right, he is in for a much awaited day. Do you remember feelings of anticipation for a big trip, your wedding or any other big day? He will be feeling tremendous excitement that and counting the days down. The excitement that you will share together through the month will be palpable.

Planning to participate? Leave a comment below and make sure you update us to let us know how far you got.