For those of you who have been around a while, you know that I’m never one to be afraid of feeding the trolls. Something about the the site or my experiences with Kevin must trigger people. In any case, I received the comment below and decided to publish it as a blog to encourage discussion rather than delete it or hide it in the comments below another blog.
I did reach out to the author to see if he would allow me to publish his nickname beside the comment but he didn’t respond so he can remain anonymous, I’ll just call him TantraGuy.
It’s a shame how ignorant one can be towards “Male” Psychology.
What you are doing stems from a deep rooted fear of being left in the dust by a man, at some point. Maybe there were previous men who led you down this path of never wanting to be hurt, left or cheated on by another man again, but here is the sad news. You are not dating men. These are boys trapped in a man’s body. Psychologically you are practically dating children from a mental standpoint. I am a man, I do love women and I actually practice tantra for over 12 years now. I orasm once every 6 weeks and I would say I am highly sexually active and not in a relationship with any of the women I spend time with. Where you fail is where the boys who are with you fail. Part of being a man, is not the cliche of being strong enough to build a house with those muscles, sure this might be a small part of it, I mean we do need buildings in this world to work and live in after all. Men are to be strong MENTALLY. Hence why I said you have never been with a man if they choose to participate in this selfish game being played by your own projections and deep-rooted fears from your past.
Let’s put this into perspective. Since I told you I orgasm once every 6 weeks. These boys you are with who are begging for your crumbs, are actually weak due to their own bad habits. Masterbation being the central theme here. When a man cuts out masterbation, he actually develops mental strength, this means when a woman like yourself comes along and makes her requests, he laughs rather than participates. If you and I were together for example, (this would never happen trust me) I would be practicing ejaculation every 6 weeks anyways. So there is no hold over me, my mental endurance and strength is at its peak before any woman came along. I tell men all the time who get into dynamics like yours (but not by choice) by being manipulated. I tell them it’s not the woman you want at all, they think they love her, they obsess over her, they put her on a pedestal, but its an illusion. It’s the man’s lack of control over his own “member”, if he control that, there is no women on earth that can control him! So what I am trying to say is these boys do not obey you because they want to please you, or they love you, they obey you because they are a slave to their own selfish desires. Sorry to wake you up here, but this is coming from a man who also has studied psychology. Sometimes it takes being something to simply understand it. Other times not so much. Thats were you have it twisted. You may study psychology, but you DO NOT understand the psychology of men. The sad part is, you must hold this “game” for as long as possible, if not you are doomed to the very fears that got your operating like this to begin with. All in all, try finding a man who is open to what you are talking about from day one. Someone you are genuinely compatible with. That way no manipulative games need to be played forever to keep him interested. This man will stay with you because he actually is compatible and loves you, not because he is deluded by his own slavery to his libido… If he ever did decide to practice tantra on his own one day, say goodbye to your relationship and hello to the very fears that frighten you the most. He will move on to find a higher value woman as he develop strength that are much stronger than your shackles.
I’m not singling out TantraGuy. I probably receive three or four messages or comments a month that are similar to this one. I want to make something abundantly clear. Kevin and I are both in a relationship because we want to be in a relationship. The game we play is undoubtedly a game that we both enjoy and brings happiness to our relationship.
TantraGuy explains how he practices tantra and I’ve gone down that road as well. The blogs from YogaGirl set me down that path and while I’ve not practiced for 12 years like TantraGuy, I do find it incredibly interesting. Like Yoga, tantra is about physical and spiritual awareness. Tantric sex is specifically about creating a deep connection and sexual awareness. Meditation, self massage and masturbation are all great ways to experience tantra either with yourself or with a partner.
I am new to tantra and I understand that like yoga, men and women can spend a lifetime trying to understand tantra. Do you have any tantric experiences that you can share? So what do you think? Do you agree with TantraGuy? Differing opinions are always welcome here so don’t be shy, let me know what you think.