So he put his willy in a little metal thing for a few days. Big deal. At the beginning of our journey, I didn’t really understand how big of a deal this was to him. As chastity has become a part of our every day life, I have developed a greater understanding for the power that it bestows upon me.
With great power comes great responsibility.Spiderman
It is important for me to recognize that his pleasure and convenience does suffer for the good of our relationship. The frequency of his orgasms are decreased, he must sit to pee, nighttime erections are painful and we’ve even had to go to the extent of having a number system to rate how difficult of a time he is having.
There is little question that I’ve got the better end of the stick with our chosen kink. I get this fancy all-powerful-key to flaunt to him when chores need to be done, dogs walked, pussies eaten and breakfast made. He probably prefers one of those chores more than others, I know I do!
With that out of the way, us ladies don’t exactly have it made on our end, either. We must remember to tease him regularly and we’ve locked up something that most of us generally enjoy using. If we skimp on the teasing for a while, we risk an upset and resentful fella and that’s no fun. There’s no better recipe for resentment than a locked and forgotten guy.
While we can (and do) unlock it for the purpose of fornication frequently, we don’t actually need to unlock it.
Just because he is locked doesn’t mean that your fun has to suffer. In fact, you can satisfy your needs while adding to the essential teasing in your relationship. This loving torment can be both functional and fun for both of you. Sometimes seeing the unmistakable look of agonizing sexual frustration on his face can be reward enough. Other times we must invoke the groan of discomfort from an overstretched cage. A caged boyfriend standing at the side of his bed with his hands behind his back while you play (or pretend to play) with yourself is a thing of beauty.
I love pegging and pegging loves me, I think. I enjoy the power trip, the excitement, they swap of gender roles. I love how he becomes the receiver of my love and must accept me inside him. I love his careful movements and gentle whispers as I bend him over the bed. The sensuality that a man is capable of expressing is an incredible type of energy to receive, as a woman. Likewise, when men get in touch with this special part of their psyche they unlock a level of intimacy that is like no other.
When you absolutely, positively must have the penetration that you crave, remember that unlocking him isn’t a necessity. Chastity friendly strap-ons go over the cage and have a harness that fastens around the waist. They are very similar to your strap-on, in fact depending on the style of your kit, yours might fit just fine. It just needs to be open in the crotch area to allow his cage to fit comfortably below the dildo.
Obviously it can feel nice to feel a penis that is larger or more girthy than you are accustomed to. All the while, he can look down and see his pleasure piece locked up safely while he goes to town with a rubber penis that has absolutely zero feeling.
The frustrated look on his face when the visual feeling of penetration exists with the absence of sensation is like no other. It is always nice to play up the part a bit too although too much showmanship on your part may venture into the world of humiliation. But… you might be into that too.
Safety Reminder – Don’t use the same dildo that you use for pegging vaginally unless you wash thoroughly or use a condom. Porous surfaces can still cause nasty infections so I recommend an entirely different toy.
Whatever you do, have fun and be safe. The willingness of both of you to make a sacrifice is a wonderful testament to your relationship. There is little question that Kevin absolutely loves our relationship. How do I know? I ask him on a regular basis and we communicate our likes and dislikes. Keep your communication strong and enjoy each other.
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