We discuss pegging quite frequently on this site and it seems that most of you are strong advocates of the practice in your relationship. Some couples tried pegging a few times as a novelty but have gone back to traditional ways. Other couples tried pegging and rarely go back to PIV (penis in vagina) sex.
Some couples say that pegging is difficult or unwieldy. Some women don’t want to give up direct vaginal stimulation. Still other couples mix things up a bit with the woman calling the shots on which type of sex she is in the mood for. That is the bucket Kevin and I fall into.
Other couples tried pegging and have never gone back to the “old ways” again. So here is your chance to let us know. Just how frequently does pegging make its way into your bedroom.
Unfortunately due to the specific nature of this question, please limit responses to female/male couples who have tried pegging at least one time. I am also trying out a new polls system so hopefully it works.
What is your primary type of sex?
- About 75% PIV and 25% Pegging (40%, 16 Votes)
- 100% PIV (25%, 10 Votes)
- 100% Pegging (15%, 6 Votes)
- 50% PIV and 50% Pegging (10%, 4 Votes)
- 25% PIV and 75% Pegging (10%, 4 Votes)
Total Voters: 40
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As of now, it looks like most of the votes are on 75% pegging and 25% vaginal which I found surprising. To someone who voted for this, why do you enjoy pegging more than vaginal?
One of those votes was mine so I’ll answer but anyone else can answer as well. Pegging is my preferred sex. I feel like it is more intimate and feel more physically connected from pegging than we do from PIV. Kev also is in a different headspace after pegging that is more loving and nurturing. We still do both but that’s my reasoning for preferring pegging.
“Kev also is in a different headspace after pegging that is more loving and nurturing.”
It is such an amazing headspace to be in too!
Have you found yourself pegging more frequently with Andrew to satisfy PIV needs?
That is to say, would your percentages change with that included.
You raise a good point but as I continue to explore the sexual side of my being, I find myself aroused by the emotional side. Physical is great and certainly necessary but there are many times that I actually prefer cuddling with a handsome boy or two.
Emma, if you don’t mind me asking. How often do you actually peg? I have heard from others that they get sore if they peg too frequently. Do you have any problem with that?
Also, why can’t I vote? It just says I need to login to cast a vote but I’m already logged in.
We peg a couple times a week usually twice but sometimes once or three times. If pegging is making you sore, you may want to slow down, make sure that you are using a properly sized toy and plenty of lube. If done properly, it shouldn’t make you sore. Check out Ruby Ryder’s blog and podcast. https://pegging101.com/
Do you see a vote button above where it says please login to cast your vote?
Thanks for the reply. It says “view results”. When I click on it it says vote but that just takes me back to where I was.
My wife’s sex drive isn’t what it used to be. We probably peg 95 percent of the time she does it for me she is fantastic. We have been married for 29 years last 10 in FLR relationship and have been pegging for about 4 years. I always ask her what she would prefer / hoping she says pegging. She also gets off on the power transfer and sometimes will orgasm with dildo rubbing her clit. She also must use lube during piv and that and a load of sperm leaves her with a sloppy crotch the next day she doesn’t miss that. I would always pick pegging and have had multiple and hands free orgasms on occasion I am in heaven when she pounds my man pussy.
More guys should try it!
Ps great web site Emma lots of great info always look forward to getting a notice of another one of your articles. Keep up the great work total fan.
I’m one of the 100% pegging votes (so far). My response is strictly from the FLR perspective between me and hubwife. I do enjoy PIV sex with an alpha lover. Hubwife’s penis has not been in my vagina in well over 10 years (I wish I had remembered the exact date). If I feel the need for penetrative sex and my alpha lover is not around, then I typically put a strap-on face harness on sissy with a dildo attache and enjoy it that way.
Over time pegging has become very enjoyable for both us. Using a high quality harness, the right dildo, lube (and lots of it) I’ve become quite adept at bringing her to orgasm this way. The power exchange is a big part of it for me and I’ve also been able to enjoy an orgasm this way as well.
We’ve been at this for many years and I really have no interest in PIV sex with her. As much as I love her, she was never very good at PIV sex anyway, but certainly made up for that in other ways. Also, and please don’t take this the wrong way, I don’t see hubwife as a real man anymore, so PIV sex just wouldn’t work for me. Nevertheless, I love her more than I ever have.
Diane
Hi Diane. Clearly your amazing relationship with your husband (hubwife) is decidedly FLR in which I assume she/he has taken on a feminine role or persona in his/her servitude to you.
One of the difficulties I sometimes run into is explaining that although I am submissive to my wife in our own unique and loving WLM, both of us consider me to be very alpha (is there such a term?) in everything I do, including service to my Mistress Wife. She insists on it. An Alpha sub if you will.
I hope you don’t mind me asking but I’d really like to know your opinion on the matter … do you consider submissive husbands in general like your hubwife, as not a real man? Please don’t misunderstand that I am being judgmental because the opposite is true. I admire you the wonderful relationship that the two of you have together.
I realize that all of the amazing couples here have their own unique and wonderful ways of living their wonderful lives, and that we run the risk of overly generalizing common terms such as submissive husband. We husbands/boyfriends depicted here and in other venues all have one thing in common … our submissiveness and service to the woman we love because her pleasure and happiness in her life is our primary source of happiness and pleasure in ours.
You’re spot on with your comment. As you said, “couples…have their own unique and wonderful ways of living their wonderful lives…” None of us should generalize. I can understand how your wife enjoys you as an alpha sub, expecting you to serve her in an alpha way. I’ve often thought about what it would be like to have both an alpha and a beta sub so to speak. So to answer your questions, I do not consider submissive husbands in general to not be “real men.” The majority of submissive husbands are surely real men. Some, like mine…are hubwives. Hope that makes sense 🙂
Diane
Makes total sense and thank you for replying.
I’ve struggled to get it right with pegging. We have tried it a few times and we’ve bought a good quality pair of briefs for me to hold the dildo in, but it doesn’t seem to have any effect on him apart from making him think he needs to defecate! (he doesn’t by the way)
Should I be giving him foreplay before insertion – any tips gratefully received. Not sure if he’s just not receptive, we’re doing it wrong or we have missed the point.
Him doing me with the strap on or the mouth dildo gag is a whole different ball game, but I’m still trying to crack the pegging.
Some questions for context if you don’t mind.
Was pegging your idea or his?
What kind of prep do you have him do, if any?
Have you tried hand held manipulation instead of a harness for exploration?
For us slow and steady is the best at first. In the beginning I needed to make sure I was fully cleaned (inside and out) and relaxed to feel comfortable. Now that it has become a regular thing in our house I am naturally more relaxed and I am less worried (embarrassed?) About making a small mess, we just take some cleaning precautions.
If it pegging is something you are bringing to the table than I cannot stress enough the importance of relaxing him. It is counterintuitive but if he does not already know, tell him to push out with is ass when you are pushing in. Exactly like trying to defecate, it helps open things up. Also, I would add just don’t stop unless just because he says he feels the need to use the bathroom if you don’t see evidence of it. The first time I had an P orgasm I was telling my wife I felt a need to pee, she kept going and was right to do so because it was amazing.
Other prep is still important, we don’t use a plug but I do have my own smaller dildo that I use to get ready for her. Usually while she is getting setup, or just for her amusement.
Hi @Vikter
Thanks for responding.
It was his idea to try it, and I know that he’s tried anal plugs a couple of times before and a prostrate massager.
As regards prep, apart from him going to the loo before hand, we haven’t really done anything.
Yes, I used with the plug a few times and I’ve used the dildo with my hand before.
Only tried once so far with the harness.
what sort of foreplay do you do for pegging?
For foreplay, it usually involves my smaller dildo in place of a plug as I mentioned to loosen things up. Being allowed to get myself ready for her helps me relax in a way that a plug does not, and helps get lube as deep as needed first. It can also be a fun way to have him put on a show for you. Let him explore and have him tell you where it feels best. Even if you both already know having him tell you out loud is and good way to acknowledge the pleasure he can get from penetration.
Usually there is some form of a blowjob for her, not in place of lube just to get both of us in a different mindset. Use a condom if you aren’t confident in cleaning to remove bacteria. Her blowjob is normally in a different room than where she pegs me. I like the feeling of her taking me somewhere else. Basically I have to earn sex by making her want it. I am also never unlocked for pegging so I have no choice but to focus on that feeling for pleasure.
I used to do an occasional enema (never more than once in a week to 10 days) but I feel like it is unnecessary unless I did not eat well. Small messes happen sometimes, I would rather that than lose the moment of desire.
It may sound mean, but if basic bathroom needs were met beforehand, I would say just go to town. Even if he says he needs to, he probably doesn’t. Have him try to relax, maybe slow but don’t stop, tell him to focus on breathing from his stomache while you continue. Any bathroom related feelings will pass.
Thanks @Vikter that’s been helpful. We’ll keep trying
All the sex I get is pegging. My wife uses her strap on a couple times a week on me. We don’t have regular sex anymore. I’ve been locked in chastity for over 12 years now and I am very small down there so my wife has someone who takes care of her need for cock. I get pegged and I am allowed to pleasure her orally which I really like.