Post nut clarity is time when sexual arousal decreases after an orgasm. That clear feeling after he lets loose of his juice and he is in a temporary psychological state that occurs due to the release of endorphins, dopamine and prolactin. This is the one time when he “cums to his senses” and his sexual arousal doesn’t cloud his emotions. He is no longer focused on achieving sex, he is able to think about non-sex things and often finds things revolting that he found incredibly arousing just moments before. This is a wonderful and potentially dangerous time to play with some raw emotions. As with all things sexual, make sure that you keep the lines of communication open and stop any teasing play immediately if he utters the safe word. The Japanese have a word for post-nut clarity, “KenjaTaimu” which directly translates to wisdom time. For this one, there isn’t much available online so I’ll do something that I haven’t done much as late and share some anecdotes from the EvolvingYourMan palace 🏰👸.
Just a few nights ago, Kev was delightfully unlocked and standing beside the bed. I laid on the bed and played with myself for him to enjoy. It didn’t take long before his little guy spat out a little batch of swimmers into his cupped hand. We will get back to what happened to the contents of his hand in a later section but for now lets move on to the teasing portion of today’s presentation.
Teasing is incredibly arousing and if you are new to the site, you will quickly learn that we do a fair amount of it in our home. I went through a nice little script of SPH teasing including reminding him that he will never satisfy me with his little guy and his inferior penis is that’s why I have a need to have a boyfriend (more on that some other time). His reaction was notably different after his orgasm since he wasn’t masking other emotions with the fog of arousal. Those raw emotions were exposed and he confirmed that he felt shame and humiliation because of his sexual inadequacy. Arousal is a comfort blanket that turns the teasings into an arousal mechanism. I asked him to sit on his hands and watch as I pleasured myself or orgasm with my lovely purple toy. As I pleasured myself I gave him reminders of why I was pleasuring myself instead of allowing him to do it with his little inadequate penis. After I had an orgasm, I told him to come closer use his tongue to bring me to another orgasm. I laid back and thanked him for bringing me pleasure and requested that he lock himself back up in his cage.
Post-Nut Cum Cleanup
This one is only really possible in the post-nut world. For many men, the idea of licking up cum is deeply arousing until the moment that their body expels said fluid. From that point forward, it is a gross idea that they wouldn’t consider. Getting your fella to agree to clean himself up isn’t difficult but getting him to follow through with it can be much more difficult because the rules that govern his arousal change. In the story in the previous section, Kev’s outstretched cupped hand collected his goo and he looked the contents of his hand and back at me. I didn’t break eye contact, nodded my head and responded, “yes love”. To which he took the contents of his cupped hand and emptied it into his mouth, licking his bare hand to not leave any stranded swimmers. It hasn’t always been this easy, in fact it was a bit of a struggle the first few times we tried this. He would agree to it prior to orgasm but try to renege on his commitment shortly after the fountain flowed. I like the taste of cum and I don’t mind swallowing but I think guys are wired to a certain level of disgust or disdain for their juice after they expel it from their bodies. In any case, this is a great one because it takes some build up and can eventually desensitize them to this practice. Now it doesn’t take much of anything and cleanup is a breeze when he self-cleans. The expectation is that he cleans himself up 100% of the time because it has been proven to improve your mood and acts as a natural antidepressant. The ingredients of his special juice cocktail include endorphins, estrone, prolactin, oxytocin, thyrotropin-releasing hormone, serotonin and last but not least, melatonin. Swallowed semen is digested the same way as food and it is composed of sugar, sodium, citrate, zinc, chloride, calcium, lactic acid, magnesium, potassium and urea. Almost identical contents to the multivitamin that he takes daily.
Orgasm denial is a great relationship tool that we discuss frequently but what about self-denial due to sexual exhaustion? During our weekly releases, we’ve played with sex doll humiliation until he finishes three or even four times with his Fleshlight or doll. Once he is sexually depleted, “out of rounds in the chamber”, exhausted and unable to perform with his lovely doll, I enthusiastically offer myself to him. Since denial is due to his own inability to continue to perform, it can be incredibly frustrating when he inevitably turns me down and an entirely different dynamic than our typical cock cage orgasm denial. This is a fun type of role play because I can beg him to fuck me and tell him how much I need him which builds on and redirects that frustration onto himself and his own inadequacy or inability. Men are multi-orgasmic but only to a certain extent at which point they either are unable to get erections or ejaculate due to exhaustion. This is great ejaculation training and a fun game to see how many deposits your fella is capable of. A good book or a movie may be good options to keep you entertained while he builds his stamina and cardio through his ejaculatory efforts. You don’t really need to stay overly engaged while he does his thing. You can give him rewards for high scores and you can post your scores in the comments below; our best effort is five. Be prepared that depletion denial can take some time especially as he gets more exhausted and frustrated.
We love pegging and the build-up of sexuality that it creates for him but what about after he cums? Pegging for him is about intimacy and submission but it too is covered with the fog of arousal. When pegging him, much of our play is based upon his enjoyment of backdoor and prostate pleasure but sometimes we add a bit of humiliation to the mix. Things like “if you were more of a man, you would be fucking me but your face is buried in the pillow because you are my little bitch” and “some men fuck their wives but look at you, moaning like a whore as I fuck your cute little ass.” Pegging for us is a very sensual and loving thing but sometimes we like to step outside that boundary and some humiliation on with my dildo. This is also a great opportunity for “forced” feminization, humiliation, submission or role-play.
Kev and I have a one sided open relationship which is a blend of hotwife and cuckold characteristics. I date a few days a week and I’ve got a few guys who I see for actual dates (movies, dinner etc.) and Kev is usually at home either cleaning, playing video games, out with his friends or some combination of those. Typically he is locked during that time because my dates are most often mid-week because of our schedules. One fun twist is for Kev to cum and immediately lock back up while I am getting ready for my date. This does two things, one it allows him to get off on the idea that I am seeing other guys which we both find lovely and intoxicating. The other thing is it provides the post nut clarity that I’m out with another man. This takes the cuckold experience to an entirely different level because his feelings aren’t clouded with the fog of arousal. He has a very visceral reaction when he thinks about what his wife is up to. He knows that I’m out having fun and enjoying the company of another man in whatever context that may be. Depending on the type of date and the setup that we are doing, my commentary is frequently themed at his inadequacy to satisfy my needs, necessitating another man to step in to help meet my needs.
When Kev accompanies me on my dates for a cuckold type adventure, he sits in the corner of the room. My bull and I watch him as he plays with himself while I very clearly remind him that my bull will be satisfying me in ways that he could never. We’ve only done this once and he was visibly agitated and uncomfortable after losing his fog of arousal so he is normally locked when we play like this.
Whatever the case above, this is FANTASY and it includes him at the core level. So many couples do this separately but we make sure to discuss the reasoning around why I step outside our marriage and the shortcomings that he has as a husband. I bring all of this fantasy back to him and give him full ownership of the humiliation which adds to the eroticism of the entire situation. I date other guys because you don’t satisfy me with that tiny dick. I play with myself because you could never satisfy me. I make you clean up your cum because nobody else wants it. All of these things are accompanied by strong emotions with the fog of arousal but when you strip that arousal, they are hard hitting and real. There are times when I return to a man on the brink of full emotional submission.
The last but absolute most important part of this entire blog is aftercare. Kev is the reason that I am able to play, have the confidence and emotional security to venture outside and explore with others. He is big enough and he is man enough and is the perfect partner for me. We both love the emotional rollercoaster of humiliation that he feels along with the feelings of empowerment and domination that I get from it. This is a form of BDSM and we both enjoy the feelings that our activities inspire. Consent is first and foremost, he can text me with our safe-word at anytime and I’ll return home. Post-nut clarity is simply another nuance to an exciting play dynamic that we have in our marriage and it amplifies things in a MAJOR way but that means aftercare needs to be amplified as well. The ups and downs on his rollercoaster of emotions are that much more intense and they must be treated with love, care and deep affection.
Yes, we have taken our relationship up a few notches and I’m giving you a window into it with this blog. Yes our play is fairly extreme but it is play nonetheless. We both enjoy playing with the strong emotions that accompany this sort of play. Kev is a very willing participant and we both talk openly and honestly about the parts of this lifestyle that we like and the parts that we do not like.
What are your post-nut thoughts? Let me know in the comments below!