Site Update: Greetings From Your Favorite Cuckold Blog

Hello, friends! I’ve got a little update for you today, and I’m feeling all kinds of emotions—excited, reflective, and yes, a bit vulnerable too.

Let’s rewind for a moment, shall we? When I first started this blog, it was a little space on the internet devoted to exploring male chastity. At the time, Kev and I were deep into experimenting with that dynamic, and it was thrilling in so many ways. But, and it’s a big but, there was something about the whole cuckolding thing that just didn’t sit right with me. The word “cuckold” itself made me cringe—doesn’t it just sound so harsh? So, I skirted around it and came up with the term “poly friend” instead. It was a softer landing for my tender feelings and a more comfortable way for me to dip my toes into nonmonogamy without diving headfirst into uncharted waters.

Life and Love

Now, why was I so resistant? I’ve asked myself that question many times over the years, and here’s what I’ve come up with: it was fear. Plain and simple. Fear of the depth of connection that could develop with another man, fear that it might somehow threaten the solid partnership that Kev and I had built. I was terrified that opening up our relationship would open a Pandora’s box of emotions, jealousy, and insecurities that neither of us could handle.

But life has a funny way of challenging your fears, doesn’t it? For me, that challenge came in the form of the COVID pandemic and a man named Andrew. Unexpected? Oh, absolutely. But sometimes, the most unexpected moments are the ones that teach you the most about yourself.

Meeting Andrew and navigating our new relationship dynamic took away a lot of the guilt I’d been harboring about the idea of infidelity. When all three of us—Kev, Andrew, and I—were on the same page, advocating for our own needs and respecting each other’s, it felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I realized that cuckolding wasn’t a dirty word, nor was it a selfish act on Kev’s part to fulfill some sort of fantasy. It was an extension of our love, trust, and mutual desire to see each other happy.

What’s Next

So, what’s next for my marriage? Oh, darlings, so much happiness! Kev and I are doing better than ever. We’ve become experts at checking in with each other, making sure we’re both getting what we need out of this life we’ve chosen together. The connection we have now is deeper and more fulfilling than I ever imagined possible. We’ve come to understand that love is not a finite resource; it grows and expands the more you give it away.

And what’s next for this blog? Well, buckle up because there are plenty of juicy topics on the horizon. As I continue learning about myself, my relationships, and my sexuality, I’m going to keep sharing those insights with you. Sometimes I contradict myself—don’t we all? But that’s just part of the journey. I’m growing, evolving, and figuring things out as I go along, and I hope you’ll continue to walk this path with me.

I don’t write to convince you of anything, but I do write to help sort through my emotions and process what’s going on in my life. My thoughts today might not be the same as my thoughts tomorrow, and that’s okay. It’s all part of the wonderful, messy, beautiful experience of being human. And I promise you this: I’ll never give you anything less than my authentic self.

Is This a Cuckold Blog?

Perhaps. I can tell you that the vast majority of the last fifty blogs have mentioned cuckolding and non-monogamy in some way. The topic fascinates me today and it will probably fascinate me tomorrow as well. This time next year, the blog may be about religious fundamentalism and politics. Just kidding, neither of those are topics I’ll ever write about because they don’t fascinate me. Take away women’s rights and you might get a RBG blog or two but for the most part I’ll keep things about relationships, sex and the intertwining of those topics. I think I’ve got at least one lifetime of potential topics there.

Thank you for reading, for being part of my journey, and for allowing me to be part of yours. Here’s to love, growth, and plenty more adventures together! If you haven’t joined the site, please do so. I want to know more about you. If you enjoy the blog and want to support my journey, support me on Patreon. If you have something to ask or say, I’d ask that you do it on the forum because with over 50k unique visitors a month, you can imagine that the amount of messages is pretty high. I have a full time job and get weeks behind on my email & messages so give me some grace and patience as you wait for responses.

All my love and gratitude for sticking around with me,
Emma