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I read a really sad post titled "No sex drive and failing sex life" I tried to post to it, but for some reason, I could not. I thought this area might be the best place to respond to it.
I can relate to the post and with my wife's lack of sexual interest, I channeled my masculine energy into porn which only compounded the issues. The comments from Emma and others is the hard truth. You can't blame your spouse for her lack of sexual interest. When you stand naked in front of the mirror, do you think yeah this will make her wet or do you cringe?
In college I was fit, and had women who I never hooked up with embarrassingly confess they would think of me when they masturbate. I had girls ask me to do a strip tease for them. It was flattering.
After college I sacrificed my body for my career and money. I accomplished that goal, but realized while money and power make for a great life for my wife and myself it doesn't really help in the bedroom.
I started following this blog many years ago, and discovered semen retention. I guess at the time my addiction was too great or I just had no will power, but I could not do the honor system. It was like a rock hard throbbing alarm in my pants would go off and I had to take care of it. I tried a cage, and wow it changed my life. I suddenly became in charge of my dick, instead of the other way around. My wife however thought the cage was repulsive. It was never to be a part of our bedroom activities, and I put it away.
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Fast forward a couple years, and my wife encouraged me to get a personal trainer and when I saw the post on Miss Fit using Chastity in Fitness Training, I thought if anything would get my wife onboard with the cage it would be me getting my old body back. It worked, well is working. When I started self locking during the day, she tolerated it as out of site out of mind. She could see my extra energy through the day. I was more present. I didn't need her to give me a chore list. I just used my excess energy to start knocking things out. It felt good. It hasn't been long, but I have lost 11 pounds by sticking to Miss Fit's nutrition and exercise plan. She is a Physical Trainer and not a Dom, which is perfect for me. She knows my desire is to bring my wife and I closer together and is helping me improve my appearance by holding me accountable to my fitness goals. The fact that she knows I am locked makes it more fun for me. I highly recommend Miss Fit, if you are looking to make a change in your appearance or health.
It was actually one of our children who was reading "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill and asked my wife about Sexual Transmutation, which Hill dedicated a chapter to. She had no idea what Sexual Transmutation was, so this sent her down a rabbit hole of internet research and when she came out said "you are going on an ejaculation schedule. You can look forward to Saturdays, and then smiled, but only if I am in the mood." Multiple times a week now she has started edging and denying me with her hand and PIV before I giver her oral and we go to sleep spooning. I have had three ruined orgasm in the past month and zero fulls. My sexual energy is like a newfound super power or a battery that she is trickle charging to keep at max charge. I have to hold back my desire to hug, cuddle, and kiss her as there is only so much she can take, before it becomes annoying to her. I would smother her if I focused this all on her, so I give her what she wants which is about 10% of my sexual energy and use the remaining 90% to improve myself.
Everyone's journey is different, but I thought my post might help the original poster of "No sex drive and failing sex life"
Posted : 13/06/2022 10:38 am
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Down 21lbs at day 45, and feeling great.
Posted : 10/07/2022 9:15 am
This is very interesting. 21 lbs is a big deal good work Hubby!
Posted : 10/07/2022 10:49 am
I read Happy Hubby excellent write up with his experience with Miss Fit as his personal trainer, and thought I would add my experience working with Miss Fit for the past year. I have achieved excellent results under her Chastity Based Rewards Program. I met my weight lost goal of twenty pounds (college weight). I had been trying unsuccessful to lose any weight for over the last five years. She totally changed the way I eat to the delight of my yoga instructor wife. My strength has increased from performing exercises with 100 lbs on my Bowflex machine to my current 300 lbs. My energy and sleeping have also improved. Miss Fit is tough but fair and has no problem passing out praise or punishment as needed. More than once she requested my wife give me a severe spanking for not following her directions.
My wife had never been interested in my chastity desires, but has come around now to seeing the benefits and the advantages of semen retention and chastity. Miss Fit likes to add in assignments of things that clients should do for their partners.
If you are like me and have lacked the motivation to get back in shape, I highly recommend Miss Fit and her Chastity Based Reward Program.
Posted : 21/07/2022 5:43 am
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Down 30lbs at day 70, and feeling . . . super horny!
Posted : 03/08/2022 3:23 pm
I've been working on losing weight for a few months now. I'm down a stone, which is simultaneously excellent (yay! losing weight!) and disappointing (how is it so hard to lose weight?)
Posted : 09/08/2022 8:32 am
mickg93 and Happy Hubby reacted
That's amazing. It isn't easy to lose weight. Congratulations.
Posted : 09/08/2022 10:19 pm
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That's amazing. It isn't easy to lose weight. Congratulations.
I am 6'3" so I carried it well, but I had/have quite a bit to lose (60 lbs total). Knock on wood I don't hit a wall or go backwards. I struggled with losing weight in the past, but Miss Fit really helped me understand how much of a factor nutrition is in weight loss and just a little calorie deficit each day and you will consistently lose 2 or 3 pounds a week. I am not hungry, and still eat a lot. I still enjoy my hazy IPA and cocktails. No different than living on a budget, but rather than money you are spending your calories, so you have to make your choices count. I highly recommend Miss Fit, I learned a lot from her.
Posted : 10/08/2022 5:32 am
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That's great that you are getting close to your target. I read your first post. I decided to retire early instead of working full time because of all the business travel. It wasn't fun when I was on the road for a month each quarter. Fortunately, I didn't gain much weight since college. I am 57 now, but I am just about three pounds heavier than when I was 22. My wife also got me to hire a personal trainer.
That helps to keep my metabolism high. Similar to your experience, better sleep and feel healthier.
Then wife got into CFNM activities and enjoyed having me naked in front of her small group of friends.
That gave me more incentives to get fit.
Posted : 10/08/2022 1:57 pm
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