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Every guy has had performance anxiety, and has probably been unable to perform because of it. This has happened to me with my partners from time to time, but my current relationship is long distance, which means that on the few occasions where she comes to visit me, I have embarrassingly been unable to perform as well as I'd hoped. I get a sense of relief from chastity, knowing that I won't be expected to perform, and it makes the whole experience more rewarding for us both. We've even incorporated humiliation into our sex life, and she regularly teases me about being unable to get it up. It's caused me to fantasize about having permanent ED, and I find the idea of it a huge turn on. Can anyone else relate to this?
Posted : 05/11/2021 9:33 am
The human mind is an amazing thing and when things are a threat, we can turn it into a fetish that actually turns us on. Cuckold fetish for example is a fetish I believe comes from fear of being cheated on. Does that make it a bad thing? The mind adapts to find the most scary and painful things as arousing. Fascinating and incredible, really. When she teases you, do you get hard?
Posted : 20/11/2021 1:46 pm
I can relate to this. I fantasize that my penis is never again used in a sexual way, leaving me to gain pleasure from anal play and to give pleasure using my hands and mouth. While being caged fulfils this in a way, it wouldn't be needed in this imaginary scenario because my penis would be a neglected nub of a thing.
Perhaps caging is a form of artificial ED
I may have overshared here ?
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Posted : 21/11/2021 2:27 am
Is it unusual that I enjoy ED?
I think so.
I find the "embarrassment" of not being able to perform contradictory to "enjoying the humiliation" of not being able to perform. Maybe Emma is right about fear and fantasy. I'm not sure that's what is going on with your situation, but if you are happy with the dynamic, that's what matters.
Posted : 21/11/2021 8:45 am
@stevesub I have a similar fantasy of being permanantly caged and chaste, and only allowed to orgasm from anal penetration.
Posted : 21/11/2021 9:15 am
It was difficult to find a lady/s who had an impotence(ED) and/or castration fetish in connection with in the FLR. But it was not impossible...
Posted : 21/03/2022 4:51 am
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I have, and don’t really enjoy, ED and orgasm issues. They all stem from a health issue years back. But since those issues are not going away we actually incorporated them into our intimacy and FLR play. I’ve posted here that I wear a chastity device (a lot) and thoroughly enjoy it when my wife teases me without even trying to make me orgasm. This was my suggestion but sometimes it gets so kinky and frustrating that I am able to perform (or think I can). She’s actually denied me orgasms for a lengthy period of time and finally gave in, which resulted weak to fair releases for me. When I can’t perform anymore I think I’ll have her click the lock shut for good (obviously I’ll occasionally need release for hygiene). I actually like the idea that’s more in the way of permanent orgasm denial play if the time comes. My wife swears she’s never been happier, but she has a happy husband who can’t ever really be unfaithful in the way other men could. Thus, we’re happy.
Posted : 19/07/2022 5:29 am
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On October 1, 2022, I became a voluntary eunuch. I was surgically neutered me and am on minimal testosterone. It's hard sometimes, but basically I enjoy it. I am grateful to my helpers in the procedure and aftercare.
Posted : 13/04/2023 4:19 am
@attistocybele Congratulations to your former self. The coffee is boiled.
Posted : 13/04/2023 4:22 am