Cum or Semen Play?

What do you mean? Consuming one's own cum?

I wasn't really thinking of it that way. My Goddess is somewhat obsessed with where I cum (when allowed). Sometimes she has to have it in her. Other times she wants it on her belly. Sometimes she doesn't want it anywhere near her. I am fixed, so there is no pregnancy issue. I was just wondering if folks focused on things like that or whether that was just a semi kink for Goddess. I have heard of consumption before, not sure how big a thing that is. Thanks!

Cheers!

Posted by: @tincup

I have heard of consumption before, not sure how big a thing that is. Thanks!

How does anyone really know what is real and what is porn-fueled fantasy.  That said, I do know that is indeed a thing. How big?  Dunno.  There are some dominant wives that have a standing rule that their husbands will ALWAYS consume their own every time they ejaculate as part of their dynamic.  Still other wives want nothing to do with it, like my very own Ms. K.  I guess since she thinks its yucky, she doesn't want to impose that upon me, even sometimes, because the act of me consuming my own doesn't excite her.  During fun talk, she has teased that she might start having me do that as a punishment-type thing, but it has not happened.  Of course she could always change her mind and have me start, but thus far ... no.

I have been asked often how I would feel about having to eat my own.  I've said before that I have had small little tingles about being one of those husbands that does to please his wife, but I also know that as soon as I cum, any kinky thoughts about it being fun evaporate immediately.  I've said before that like spanking, the act itself isn't pleasant, but being required to submit to do so is very arousing.

@subhubphx 

Ha! Ha! Ha! That scene is hilarious. As a side note, I saw that movie with my mother in the theater and totally lost my shit! Thank God it was dark in there and she couldn't or wouldn't see my face.

As far as my cum, Goddess really uses it as more of a control thing. I think she likes to play a mind game in letting me think I will cum in her (my favorite) and then force me put to cum on her belly, or on myself.

I really haven't read about the personal consumption stuff except for in fantasy blogs or porn. I didn't even think of it being used as a punishment dynamic. I wonder if other folks have seen or even engaged that way.  Having read many of your fine posts, I imagine you would be in a tough spot trying to fill your need to please Ms.K, versus your deminished tingles after cumming. LOL. I think I know who would win out.

Cheers!

Posted by: @tincup

Having read many of your fine posts, I imagine you would be in a tough spot trying to fill your need to please Ms.K, versus your deminished tingles after cumming.

First, thanks for the kind compliment.  If it were to ever happen, I don't think it would at all be difficult because of the nature of our relationship.  Ms. K. is keenly aware of the decrease sexual state of mind of men (me included) just seconds after cumming.  It's way I am required to masturbate to FULL orgasm immediately preceding a punishment spanking for something she might really unhappy about.  It the worst kind of punishment because of course, after cumming, there is little to no chance that anything sexual pleasure would come from the pending spanking.  

Conversely, with a ruined orgasm, the ejaculate is there and there is zero loss of sexual desire, so I could see being eager (tingly) about it after a ruined orgasm.  That could be fun.  But, if it was after a FULL orgasm, I have found (been trained) to understand that it is about HER pleasure, and if doing that would please her, I know an eager "Yes Mistress" would immediately come out of my mouth.

Posted by: @subhubphx

It's way I am required to masturbate to FULL orgasm immediately preceding a punishment spanking for something she might really unhappy about. 

This must have taken time, dicipline, and hard work to accept. That being said, it is clearly the only meaningful way to accept punishment. To be free of any other intent or pretense may be the only way to accept the punishment and try to make ammends.

This also leads me to another conclusion. Through my own reflection and with the help of Emma and the members on this sight, I am beginning to understand how selfish I have been in my own sexual satisfaction. I know that the best way for me to provide the love & intamacy and give Goddess pleasure is to accept and submit.

It is slowly sinking in.

Cheers!

Posted by: @tincup

That being said, it is clearly the only meaningful way to accept punishment. To be free of any other intent or pretense may be the only way to accept the punishment and try to make ammends.

This may be true for some, but I can tell you from experience that a true punishment spanking, even without a preceding orgasm, more than effectively gets the message across.  

@subhubphx 

Oof! She looks tough! You may have something there. I've never received a proper punishment from Goddess. That's probably something we'll need to discuss soon. If it's an option she needs or wants, she'll have it.

Cum play is something we do sometimes. It is a power dynamic and something harmless that I can "force" him to do. The first few times it was something that was difficult for him to stomach but it is a matter of desensitizing and overcoming the stigma that it somehow made him gay.

It is something that can seem appealing when in the moment but very unappealing post orgasm when his arousal level is low. The fact that cum has such a polarizing reaction can be fun way to push him to something into trying something that is harmless. For this reason it can be a fun mind game. Even if you don't think it is hot to watch him eat his own, the fact that he is doing something for you is arousing, at least in my book.

When Andrew was living with us, there was a real concern about what to do with the goo when two men are involved. When either guy was squeamish about touching the other's secret sauce, it created an annoying bedroom obstacle. Desensitizing both of them to the presence of cum in any capacity took a few encounters but eventually the presence of bodily fluids became a much more minor issue.

There may be some benefits to the consuming of his goo, retention of hormones, nutrients, zinc and whatever else his body can attain from the recycling of fluids.

Here is a blog that I wrote about it.

https://www.evolvingyourman.com/2018/12/27/to-eat-his-own/

@evolvingyourman_ivcr4j 

Thanks for the added thoughts Emma!

Goddess and I have never done this, but I like activities that allow us to relate at higher levels and reinforce the bonds we have together.  Perhaps this should be considered and maybe I should just go for it if I can keep the hormones up long enough. I am comfortable with my sex status and a possible gay stigma doesn't bother me.  As @subhubphx suggested, maybe a ruined orgasm would work best.

Your past (sorry ?) dynamic with Kev and Andrew causing a conundrum is interesting. Like you said, "what do you do with the goo when two men are involved". Seems fair for you to expect them to read the situation and deal with it; two men, twice the goo. Sounds like that's part of the deal or part of the fun with multiple partners.

I enjoyed reading the attached blog post.  We may walk a fine line between fetish and what may be a meaningful intimate desire.  Perhaps in this we may be combining both. I dearly love to please Goddess and if she gains pleasure from any aspect of it, then I am on board.

Cheers Emma!

It clearly isn't for everyone but it evokes an emotional response and the fascinating thing is how vastly different your response is pre and post orgasm. 

Ha! Good one!

The only way I can evolve is to confront my fears,  be vulnerable and break down barriers.

Cheers!

I want to know more about your threesome lifestyle. Did your husband go down on you after the other? That is hot.

We've done this two different ways, both of which involve me eating my own semen:

When I cum in her mouth if she wants to she will grab me and french kiss me pushing the cum into my mouth when I then swallow it. When she doesn't do this - she spits the cum out. I am the only one who swallows cum in this relationship.

When I cum before she does during sex I go down and use my mouth to make sure she cums - this causes me to lick and swallow quite a bit of my cum which also helps her cum since she loves making me do it. 

Hope this helps!