Weekend getaways

Posted by: @tincup

Is this a time for relationship retreat full of deep conversations?

My fiance and I just came back from such a weekend.  Since my firm hit our target in July we closed the office for a few days last Thursday and gave everyone a four-day weekend.  We took the chance to head to the Outer Banks of North Carolina to get some sand between our toes and and really connect without so many of life’s regular distractions to get in our way.

The overall theme was low-key relaxation, but we talked about important stuff and really doubled down on our commitments to each other.

We tackled two really hard question that were hanging over us:  1) when and how do we get married? and 2) do we keep her house as an investment and move into mine?  Or do we sell her and buy something new?  We came to agreements on these important questions.

We also had long talks about our FLR and how much it means to the two of us.  We looked at how is gradually progressing and how it is making us both better people.  We even had an open conversation about male chastity.  I would not say she is a fan yet, but she did acknowledge that it gives her a thrill to think about having me under lock and key.  

Because there were no distractions and we were having so many intimate conversations, the sex was wonderful.  We had sex everyday and twice on Saturday.  Her teasing skills are getting incredible now, although, because of the romance and her compassion, she did not deny me.  I was allowed 5 releases in 4 days.

it was great to recharge our batteries and share some great food.  Friday night we each had a peck of raw oysters.  That is 4 1/2 dozen each! Yum.

I hope your trip is successful for whatever you plan for it.

You got it right tincup. All of the above as you said. Vacations are a chance to do the opposite of what you do in everyday life however and what you focus on depends on how the two of you get to live together. If you are both busy and finding time for one another is difficult then maybe focus more on quiet, deep, and reflective moments together. If you get to spend time together in your day to day, then you may have already had those conversations so I would say have your wife write down every wild thing that her imagination can think of and give it to you when you get there. You do the same. Do one of hers and then one of yours. Time away is a completely different mindset and allows for the two of your to connect on a deeper level while also letting go of who you are temporarily and experiencing a different life. Almost like you were plucked out of your life and put in a fantasy world for 3 days or whatever. 

Wow, can't believe this was two years ago. Much has changed. On the weekend getaway I spoke of I came out to my wife as bisexual. It was a pivotal moment in our marriage and has strengthened our relationship. I have since lost much of my interest in an FLR, though I have continued in my submissive role. That is naturally who I am.