If it becomes too much for him

Hi, we talked a few months ago.

My boyfriend (19) had a very difficult time getting used to orgasm control. It was hard for him to be caged and he has always so desperate. After 2-3 days he really needed sex and started to get resentful and mad at me. At first I used to lock him up for short periods of time - and sometimes a few days but with some release periods... so he was locked but he could have orgasms when I allowed it. Then we had a few months pause when we had normal sex. He was not ready, even though he accepted the situation, so I let him have sex and orgasms during the summer holidays.

A few weeks ago we restarted the "training". Seeing that it was so difficult for him I contacted a sex coach and he has helped us a lot. I've locked him up to 5 days. He struggles a lot and he is desperate, but he is getting used to it. He also has times when he is not caged.

In the last weeks he's been caged twice -2 and 5 days. The first time it was ok, just some disconfort and frustration the second day. The second time he got really desperate, angry, frustrated... He needed an orgasm. He asked for it, he begged. I lied next to him in bed and hugged him while I told him to breathe. He could not stop moving himself, trying to touch me, playing with his cage...

I contacted our sex coach and we had a meeting that day, at our home. He made my boybriend lie down on our sofa and made him talk about his feelings. My boyfriend is really shy and found it quite difficult to open up like that, but our coach kept asking him more and more intimate questions. Then he made him express his frustration and how he felt dominated. It was so sweet to see my shy boyfriend struggling to open himself up, blushing when answering intimate questions, and telling things he wanted to hide. At one point, talking about his frustration, he said he needed to stop and have sex and started to cry. Our coach let him cry -I think he even tried to push his buttons to make him express his feelings with more intensity. Then they made breathing exercises. That was on day 3.

The next day he was really really aroused. I saw him in bed trying to stimullate himself. He didn't want the sex coach to come home again, but I called him anyway (I must say that I alone and then both of us had some sessions with him before, so he was not a strander). My boyfriend felt extremely awkward during the session. At first he had to talk about his feelings. It was hard for him to tell him how aroused and desperate he felt. At first he didn't want to say how frustrated he was, but then our couch grabbed a cushion and pressed it firmly against his sex (my boyfriend was lying on the sofa). My boyfriend froze. He kept pushing it firmly trying to make my boyfriend react. Then my boyfriend was asked how he felt and he could not deny anymore how horny he felt. He was made to talk about his feelings and frustations. Then our coached asked him how hard it was for him to refrain to move against the cushion. He said he was feeling more horny when being touched, but he admitted he was embarrassed to "fuck" the cushion while it was being held there by him. My boyfriend could not stand it, he started begging for release. The coach praised him for standing the pressure against his sex and not reacting to it, because that meant he was controlling himself. Then he suggested physical exhaustion to release the tension and discomfort, so he was made to run fast for 30 min on a treadmill. Then we all did some relaxation exercises.

The next day I unlocked him and he was really desperate, so I allowed him to masturbate and then we had sex.

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Hi, we talked a few months ago.

 

My boyfriend (19) had a very difficult time getting used to orgasm control. It was hard for him to be caged and he has always so desperate. After 2-3 days he really needed sex and started to get resentful and mad at me. At first I used to lock him up for short periods of time - and sometimes a few days but with some release periods... so he was locked but he could have orgasms when I allowed it. Then we had a few months pause when we had normal sex. He was not ready, even though he accepted the situation, so I let him have sex and orgasms during the summer holidays.

 

A few weeks ago we restarted the "training". Seeing that it was so difficult for him I contacted a sex coach and he has helped us a lot. I've locked him up to 5 days. He struggles a lot and he is desperate, but he is getting used to it. He also has times when he is not caged.

 

In the last weeks he's been caged twice -2 and 5 days. The first time it was ok, just some disconfort and frustration the second day. The second time he got really desperate, angry, frustrated... He needed an orgasm. He asked for it, he begged. I lied next to him in bed and hugged him while I told him to breathe. He could not stop moving himself, trying to touch me, playing with his cage...

 

I contacted our sex coach and we had a meeting that day, at our home. He made my boybriend lie down on our sofa and made him talk about his feelings. My boyfriend is really shy and found it quite difficult to open up like that, but our coach kept asking him more and more intimate questions. Then he made him express his frustration and how he felt dominated. It was so sweet to see my shy boyfriend struggling to open himself up, blushing when answering intimate questions, and telling things he wanted to hide. At one point, talking about his frustration, he said he needed to stop and have sex and started to cry. Our coach let him cry -I think he even tried to push his buttons to make him express his feelings with more intensity. Then they made breathing exercises. That was on day 3.

 

The next day he was really really aroused. I saw him in bed trying to stimullate himself. He didn't want the sex coach to come home again, but I called him anyway (I must say that I alone and then both of us had some sessions with him before, so he was not a strander). My boyfriend felt extremely awkward during the session. At first he had to talk about his feelings. It was hard for him to tell him how aroused and desperate he felt. At first he didn't want to say how frustrated he was, but then our couch grabbed a cushion and pressed it firmly against his sex (my boyfriend was lying on the sofa). My boyfriend froze. He kept pushing it firmly trying to make my boyfriend react. Then my boyfriend was asked how he felt and he could not deny anymore how horny he felt. He was made to talk about his feelings and frustations. Then our coached asked him how hard it was for him to refrain to move against the cushion. He said he was feeling more horny when being touched, but he admitted he was embarrassed to "fuck" the cushion while it was being held there by him. My boyfriend could not stand it, he started begging for release. The coach praised him for standing the pressure against his sex and not reacting to it, because that meant he was controlling himself. Then he suggested physical exhaustion to release the tension and discomfort, so he was made to run fast for 30 min on a treadmill. Then we all did some relaxation exercises.

 

The next day I unlocked him and he was really desperate, so I allowed him to masturbate and then we had sex.

Many thanks for responding. Please feel free to email me again. I'd like to chat further. 🙂