Is longer term chastity kinder than short term chastity?

Posted by: @brian

When I found I was still getting drop we went to direct prostate massage which causes seaman to release with no contractions and no drop.

I'd love to get him to this state but we're still trying to find that elusive goal of the prostrate semen release.

Just another vote for longer-is-better.  I never really get "used to it" as some suggest.  My horniness, and the Dopamine high that comes with it, just keeps inreasing (sort of in waves).  The feeling is unreal (isnt it illegal to be this high?).

Also as said: After a few months I really stop thinking of "my release" and truly focus on her and somehow that makes me feel even better.  Yet I still need it to be enforced.  Maybe I am just weak, but it (the cage) flips some switch in my brain that makes me enjoy the submission.

Posted by: @mstara

I'd love to get him to this state but we're still trying to find that elusive goal of the prostrate semen release.

When you do ..... it's amazing and even more effective than a ruined orgasm when it comes to avoiding "the drop"

Hi brian.

I wholeheartedly agree with you on this. I'm new to this chastity stuff but have very quickly become addicted to it. I don't need to be locked up during the day but night-time is a different kettle of fish. I struggle to get through the night without a handjob regardless of whether I really need one or not. I look forward to locking myself up in the evening knowing that once incarcerated there is no way I can play with myself and the pressure to do so is gone.   

I think longer times are kinder as you said. But it is not for everybody.
We are on a 6-7 week schedule. And that looks like a great time.
The first few weeks are often hard because the male body is programmed to ejaculate as much as possible. But then the period of bliss starts. I experience higher sensitivity of the skin and more need to cuddle and care.

@khorina5 

After confessing to my wife of my addiction to porn and masturbation [7-10 + times per week] I've been  orgasm free 99 days mostly caged.  It has been easier than I thought it would be.  We've moved to a new state new job, not constantly thinking about my next orgasm has been nice.  Maybe when things calm down I'll get another orgasm, but I'm not in any hurry 

I have never been made to wait more than one week between releases, so I don't have the perspective to know one way or the other.  My thought would be that the frequency of the teasing has a bigger impact than the frequency of the orgasm.  Is this not right?

Longer term chastity works better for me/us. With occasional erectile and orgasm issues (and I’m still young), the longer lockups are better. I feel less upset about having issues when I’m locked. And, it’s a turn on so that when my wife releases me I have a better orgasm, not necessarily happening quickly, but sometimes it does. Unlocking and teasing is great, and is a great turn on. But then my erection goes soft and my wife locks me back.

Yes, it’s calming to have the ability to jack off removed.  It frees us to focus on other more important things like our wives and kids.

How are you able to remain in chastity for longer than a couple hours.  My penis gets sore quickly. I have tried plastic and metal devices.  I like the metal cage and there is room for air.  It is strange to enjoy having my penis and balls locked but…

suggestions on how to remain caged longer without 

getting sore?

@transstar I hear of people that say they stay locked for weeks or more on their first go with chastity. I found it more something that takes time for the skin to grow accustom. Think of your hands and the time it tanks them to grow accustomed to say a new sport, or your feet do different hiking boots. So go slow, wear it for short periods and increase as your body adjusts.

There are layers to this and in order for me to respond I'll need to separate chastity and orgasm denial into two topics. For us, being in chastity doesn't necessarily mean orgasm denial and conversely denial doesn't necessarily mean being in chastity.

For chastity, long term is better for me. It usually takes me about a week for my skin to get used to the steel of the cage, especially the ring around the bottom of the scrotum. I usually get some chaffing and irritation during that first week. If I only get locked for a week, then let out for a while, the time out resets the acclimatization and I have to start over again. It's much better for me to just stay locked. And when I say that, I mean locked when not in use, not full time / never out. My keyholder still likes to use her property for its intended purpose and properly timed edgings keep me in the sweet spot of desperation and compliance.

There is a similar sweet spot for orgasm denial. At may age, going four to five days between orgasms wouldn't even be considered denial, since it takes me that long to regain interest in the first place. But your point is spot on that it takes time to achieve the euphoria that orgasm denial is intended to implement. Shortening the cycle prevents or limits that effect.

I start to feel the urge five days in. Desperation sets in around day 10. My peak usually occurs 21 days after previous orgasm, then things start to taper off and I lose sexual interest altogether by the end of a month. This does us no good, so I typically will get a reset from my keyholder at that point. Of course, she never overtly grants me permission. She just pushes me a little too far while edging me, during which she is threatening me with all manner of terrible consequences should I fail her (and she always delivers).

The bottom line: I get the maximum return and euphoria form orgasm denial between 10 days and a month, with the peak right around 21 days in. Anything less than that and I don't get the effect, while anything more and it becomes counterproductive. 

How old are you @gtsfootboy?

@allabouther Late 40s

We like to take it a week at a time, Kev got resentful and snippy when we stretched it over more than a month. It probably depends on the guy, the relationship, the level of teasing and other factors.

Monthly realisation with ruined orgasm is the best for me for long period.