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Dja68
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Hello everyone,

David, 41 from the UK and my dear fiance is 51. Together for five years now. I've been into chastity play for a long time now and used to self lock, take part in locktober etc. Recently bought my partner into it and tried to explain why. She plays along every now and again for a week or so but unfortunatly only does it for me and prefers me unlocked. Would dearly love for her to lock me 24/7 and would apreciate any advice.

Look forward to chatting

 
Posted : 26/12/2022 5:24 am
Allabouther
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It is about her.  Do what she wants.  Period.  Embrace the honor system.  You can give her control of your orgasms.  Stop masturbating and promise to only release with her express permission.  I get the kink factor is lower, but the fact that you can control yourself to meet your commitment is way more significant than the fact that she can physically separate you from your Willy.  You have to change you mindset from, “I am so committed to her, I will wear this uncomfortable contraption on my dick 24/7”, to “sex is for her pleasure. Therefore, if I get a release it is because it will bring her pleasure.  Of course, I will honor our relationship and her control by abiding by her decisions.  I don’t need a device like a little kid needs a child safety lock to make sure I follow the rules”

 
Posted : 26/12/2022 7:01 am
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Mr Pickle
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My wife wasn't keen at all to begun with and would rather it was unlocked. I think she would rather it didn't exist (just another kink, all about me etc. This was year one. Year two was she was 50/50 because the realization was 'thus isn't an act?' 

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Year three and C is very adamant that I'm locked. I stay locked apart from her play times or emergency. 

I evolved into someone my wife adores and wants to spend time with. A great dad and with lots of time and patience. Much more and it's permanent behaviour change. 

 

My incredible wife has also evolved into a very confident m, sexy, kinky believer. 

 

Just let it evolve in its own time.

 
Posted : 27/12/2022 11:11 am
Dja68
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@mr-pickle That’s really good to hear. Thank you!

 
Posted : 28/12/2022 1:09 am
Mr Pickle
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No problem, and sorry for the spelling.

I'm in the UK too and my journey blog is on chastityforums which is far too long to copy over. Also I find this sight is harder to use on a mobile device.

The secret is patience. Something Men don't have and women have in abundence. 

Women are also very suspicious of anything that is most likely going to be about you and more stuff thay don't need. Let's face it, thay have enough crap to deal with as it is. 

The name of this site is spot on. Evolution takes a long time and is the result of trial upon trial. 

Male Chastity is the same. Tiny tiny steps.  lots patience, sacrifice and frustration. 

Take on the crap for as long as it takes. Eventually you really will enjoy helping and doing more. 

Keep going until you do it because you want to, not as part of a plan. 

Eventually the wife takes the reigns and it gets much easier.

The results are more than worth it because you become the person you should always have been, and the person you really want to be on hindsite. 

This post was modified 1 month ago by Mr Pickle
 
Posted : 28/12/2022 6:01 am
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True42
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Posted by: @mr-pickle

The results are more than worth it because you become the person you should always have been, and the person you really want to be on hindsite. 

 

Well said!

 

 
Posted : 03/01/2023 2:23 pm

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