Introduction

Hi All, 

My wife and I are high school sweethearts married very young, now almost 32 years of marriage. We are finally empty nesters - boo ya! My wife is very intelligent strong willed women in all areas of life including our marriage, with the exception of our sexual relationship, where she had been more traditional. That was until Covid when she caught me masturbating and flipped the script on me. She didn't know about the chastity device yet, but she put me through orgasm denial hell for a few weeks. During this time she did not let me have an orgasm, she required me to continue to perform and satisfy her. Our connection and intimacy went through the roof, and one night she had four orgasms, but instead of being happy she was very mad and disappointed. She said I had robbed her of this type of sexual relationship for years, providing one lack luster orgasm at a time, while I was pleasuring myself regularly. She was serious, and I felt really bad about being selfish and letting my favorite person in the world, best friend, and lover down. 

Next thing I know she was doing research and found out about male chastity devices and orgasm denial. She sat me down and explained how we were going to move forward, and that I could find the one I liked, test a few, make sure it was comfortable, but from now on she owned me sexually otherwise I had other choices I could make. She went on to say you owe me hundreds of orgasms that I had robbed her of over the last couple of decades and it was time to pay up (I think she actually said the first 30 were about mine, the last 30 years would be about hers). Meanwhile I would be experiencing less and less of them, until she found the perfect amount that corrected my focus from me to her sexually. I was shocked, she never took control like this over this part of our marriage.

Fast forward over a year, other than my exercise workouts, intercourse, and the occasional locked pass I am continuously locked. She's trained me go from just a few days, past a week, and month, and we are now in the 6 - 8 weeks of denial. She has trained me to control my orgasms during intercourse, and its the greatest gift she has ever given me - its a shame people think it is emasculating, because when I see how satisfied she is I never felt better, as a man that I could do that for her. In 2022 her goal is to see how I do at 4 - 8 orgasms for the year. 

This has been our little secret until now, but we are both starting to feel more comfortable AND proud of this lifestyle so we are engaging with others in the lifestyle and reparable forums like this one. We figure we are still rookies, so it would be helpful to continue to learn from others on how to develop this lifestyle, though we both feel very good about our current routine. Male chastity and orgasm denial is one of the best things we have ever done for each other. 

I look forward to learning from you all, and have already gained great insight from Emma's articles. 

Enjoy the Journey!

JR (Bebop53)