Hi. Married male here that has been into chastity for a while(since I saw it in porn). I bought a cage without my wife knowing. First time I put it on, I was hooked. Then I just needed to find a way to tell my wife. We were looking at toys on Amazon, and we looked at chastity cages. I expressed an interest in it and we bought a cage. She was freaked out at first. We did more research and reading on it and a lot of open communication about it. That helped a lot. We both read a book called Locked in Love. It helped a lot. So far the longest I have been locked is 33 days. We are continuing to see where this goes.