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Hello, I have discovered this website recently.
I was looking for some answer to my problems and here I am.
I'm a married man with less sex than I want (9/year) But the real problem is that I have more and more thoughts about sex, everyday, I masturbate myself often like once a day but is not enought to get calm.
i dont want to pressure my wife so I dont aproach her to do it, even if that day she would like as I dont go there she doesn't too.
I'm also long time ago interested to find pleasure on the other way, so I'm always looking for pegging and strapon videos porn when I need to masturbate.
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I want to get calm, I want to get less excitement, At the beginig I was looking for some pill that make me less excited but I refuse to get some "drugs", so that's why I start looking for chastity cage.
I don't know if this chastity cage can herlp me and help my marriage, I'm frusttating everyday for no sex, is paintfull for my mind.
My wife is openminded but I don't know if she is open enought to leave her the keys. 2 years ago I buyed a strapon for her and is still there in the cage, no open even when she said me that understandme, but never used.
We have 2 small kids (5 and 3years) that as you already know spend all the time and energy on them hehehehe
By the way I get erections very very easilyu, just a kiss or a short word, whatever.
Thanks in advance for your responses. And sorry for my bad english. I hope is good enought to understand me
Posted : 11/03/2021 11:18 am
Um, a cage by itself is unlikely to lower your desire for sex. It is possible it will change your behavior in a way your wife likes and that might lead to more intimacy, but if it doesn't, it will lead to more frustration.
Personally I would look into why your wife is not being more sexual and address that. It might be you. Something you are doing or not doing that is causing her to not feel like sex. It might be something in her life, a job, the kids, a health issue, or maybe she just has a much lower sex drive to you.
If she simply has a lower sex drive to you and if sex is important to you, I would talk to her about you getting a lover outside the marriage. I know that might sound extreme, but a marriage shouldn't be a burden.
I agree. Pegging and chastity are not a replacement for sex and won't solve problems with your relationship. Put the fetishes and toys aside, she likely won't want to discuss anything until you have some heartfelt discussions. If she genuinely wants some options to help you reach a level of sexual satisfaction, introduce those ideas since both are non-traditional sexual approaches. Keep us updated and best of luck!
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i have talk to her really sincerily showing my concerns.
she finally realize that the lack of sex has drive me into a headache
She also think than exploring my back is ok, natural and a big oportinity to find new ways of pleasure each other.
In fact we have started exploring my back side, she in charge with a little vibrator plug, she enjoyed and I love it, both now wants to go deep on that feelings but slowly. She do not want to use for the moment a strapon as is shoking for her to have a cock.
also the idea of a cage doesnt k
like too much, she dont want the responsability of my pleasure and think that no one has to be in charge of the other but is not closed at all to test it for some hours
The things that we have done yesterday were amaizing and has changed my own feelings. Now I feel vulnerable, I sleep always naked she dont, but last night we were maki g the spoon to sleep this time she was back from me holding me, was a very vulnerable but I feel safe on her arms
I will update my relantioship when we go forward
thanks to all for listen and for this amazing blog
