No so sure about taking the first step
My girlfriend of 4 years and are are into spankings and floggers and I'd say we are relatively kinky. We are at least kinky enough to have a safe word anyways! She brought up chastity during the weekend and wants me to try it but I am hesitant to take the first step and buy a cage. How bad is it? How is sleeping in a cage? After reading some of the experiences on this site I am worried that if I take the first step she may want it all the time rather than just a playful bedroom thing. What is the emotional side of it that is described? How will it make me feel? How does it feel to go into submissive frame of mind? How does it feel wearing a sex toy when you are at the store or at church or driving around town?
How bad is it? How is sleeping in a cage? After reading some of the experiences on this site I am worried that if I take the first step she may want it all the time rather than just a playful bedroom thing. What is the emotional side of it that is described? How will it make me feel? How does it feel to go into submissive frame of mind? How does it feel wearing a sex toy when you are at the store or at church or driving around town?
It's NOT bad at all if you get a quality cage. The plastic ones like the CB6000 will likely disappoint both you and your gf. Those particular cages get a little achy after a few days. The cheap knockoffs? They're worse. Because it's an enclosed plastic tube, it can get to smelling a little wonky after a day or two. I recommend a Jail Bird from Mature Metal (google it). It's pricey and precise measuring is essential, but if a cage is in your future for any length of time, it's waaaaaay worth it. Sleeping in the cage is no problem either. After the usual and expected nighttime erections, which make things snug but not painful, your body seems to learn to not do that anymore.
The emotional side is the best part. When we are having sex while I'm caged, it essentially takes the penis out of the equation and allows you to focus more on her pleasure and what is happening before you (her orgasms). It also has the effect of allowing men to really get in touch with their feminine side, as in pegging for example. Pegging is far more enjoyable when the penis is not in the equation.
Store, work, church, driving around town, entertaining guests ...... It's wonderful. If nothing else it certainly acts as a constant (comfortable) reminder of who is in charge of your sex .... in a good, make that great, way.
Burgundy - it's bad. It's really bad. It is more addictive than crack cocaine, and more disarming than an unconditional surrender. Run away while you still can, because once you try it, there is no way you are ever, ever, ever going to give it up.
It's already too late for the rest of us. Wouldn't trade this bliss for the world.
Also, yes, it's uncomfortable at times. Annoying. But those things seem pretty minor. Strangely irrelevant.
We use a Kali cage. It has 32 spikes (either rounded or pointy, we use pointy ones). It's heavy but love the feeling when a lover gets me aroused. It's uncomfortable at night as I usually ger aroused two or three times per night and then you feel the spikes. The longer I'm denied relief the more frequent my erections at night become.
My wife, Jenn loves to tease me while I wear it telling me about her lovers,what they have or will be doing to her. She usually makes me wear it for a few days prior to her playing with her lover. She spent last week with a lover that came and stayed with us and I had it on the whole week. Needless to sat my cock was quite red/sore after and was unable to enjoy her until it calms down and she recovers from his large 8.5 inch cock.
If you want it to just be a playful bedroom thing, then insist on keeping one of the two keys But once you get a cage, there is a good chance that she may want to restrict your orgasms for real, and ask for the second key. You should know now what your response would be. If you don't want to be her submissive, then it may be better to play other bedroom games. Because once she sees the incredible advantages of locking you up, she may be disappointed that you are just playing games with it.
Any cage takes some adjusting to, including sleeping in it and going out in public. You should start slowly, maybe just an hour the first day, two-three hours the next day, etc. If it's making any rub marks on your penis or testicles, then it doesn't fit right and you need to either adjust it or get a different cage.
If you keep at chastity, the cage will eventually feel so normal that you will feel weird when it's NOT on! You also are likely to change your entire view of sex and of marriage. You'll stop looking at other women so much because they don't have the key. You'll focus all of your sexual attention on your wife because she DOES have the key. You'll stop looking at porn because you can't masturbate. You'll eat a lot more pussy in the hope that she will unlock you.
You'll be horny constantly ... and get to like it! You'll start doing everything your wife says in the hope of earning release. And you'll find that you constantly have this sexual energy that enables you to do more chores and projects around the house. Your wife will LOVE that. But it may cost you because she will discover that when she lets you out and lets you orgasm, you suddenly lose that extra energy and also pay her less attention. So the next time she locks you up longer. You keep becoming a better and better husband, and she keeps extending the time between your orgasms. But she tells you that she loves who you have become ... and you start to love it, too. You know you are a better husband and better man. You are more faithful, you are more helpful, your life revolves around this woman like when you were pursuing her before marriage. Is that worth the many orgasms you are being denied? It sure is ...
I would start by getting on AliExpress and getting several sizes of Holy Trainer v4. I have nub, nano, small, and standard. Play around with the sizes. Try the larger one for sleeping at first. When you wake at night. Pee and a bit of vasaline to pull it back and get back to sleep. Yes. Danger! It is addictive and the best decision of my life.