Our evolution

First of all, Emma, thank you so much for this website. I found you when searching to discover what might have happened to Yoga Girl’s website. I’m so glad you were able to save a few of her pages. 

My wife and I have recently decided to embrace male chastity to improve our relationship. We aren’t currently considering any kind of device. For us, it means that we embrace that sexual activities are at her discretion and masturbation by me is forbidden. 

How did we get here? Well, I have always desired more frequent sex than her.  For years, I dealt with this by masturbating and cultivating an active fantasy life.  I very much enjoyed sex with her when we had it, but it became increasingly difficult for me to orgasm when we did.  Typically, she would get off several times, but we would eventually give up in frustration when we realized I wasn’t going to get there.  She would stress that it was her fault and that she was doing something wrong.  I would assure her it was not, but I am embarrassed to admit how long it took me to connect it to my masturbation habit.

It is fun and affirming when your partner is very responsive to you in bed.  I now see that my habit was denying her the opportunity to have that affirmation.  Now, when we have sex after a meaningful chastity period (nothing major—I’m just talking a week or so), I am incredibly responsive and she feels like a sex goddess.