Hello! I’m a 47 year old man married 17 years to a very beautiful woman whom I cherish. My wife is a strong, smart successful woman whom I love and respect and we have a happy life. I’ve always felt my submissiveness but have never acted or expressed it to anyone directly. I’ve dropped hints here and there but it seems my wife is reluctant to act on them. She has never been one to ask for any kind of kink or sexual beyond vanilla. I’ve always wanted my wife to be more adventurous and recently I’ve been more and more obsessed with my submissive side. I never looked at porn until the last year when I learned of femdom and FLR. Then I was hooked. One drunken night a month ago I got the courage to explain what it is to my wife and ask her if she would be interested in learning more about it. She surprised me and said she would and I immediately ordered some books that night on the topic for her and us to read. I think we are both a little apprehensive and nervous about this because the books sat unopened on her dresser for several weeks until last night. This weekend I asked her if she was ever going to read the books and she said she would read them while on her trip out of those this week.
when I learned this last night I was so excited I couldn’t sleep. I am nervous, scared, excited all at once at what she will feel and think when she gets home. I’ve had years to develop my feelings and understanding of this and she is just now (at least to my knowledge) learning and thinking about it. I can only imagine how this could shake her understanding of who she thought I was. But we will work and talk it out together when she returns. And no matter how she decides to proceed it won’t change how I feel about her.
I will still adore her, cherish her and serve her in my own way. It just may not be the same version I had in my fantasy. And that’s ok.
Been through that exactly. You'll be fine. No way to know how she will react but it won't be anything too rash. At worst, she may not understand right away (my wife didn't really) but with some time and patience she will likely at least give it a try. She may embrace it. Then the trouble really begins. ?
Thanks. Your right. I’m a little nervous about the current unknown but a little “trouble” would be nice.
If you don’t mind me asking, how was your relationship after you had this discussion?
This is very similar to my wife and me. I applaud you for your courage. Well done. I have the same fears (and desires), but we have not had a discussion about it yet. Keep us posted, I'm interested to see how it progresses.
I can honestly say it’s been better than ever. We started slow but her sex drive went through the roof. We went from once in a blue moon to almost every night. We are closer more attentive to each other than ever.
Things have really taken off more just very recently. I told her I really loved how things were going and wanted her to take even more control. A while later she gave me permission to buy a cage and agreed to try pegging later. It actually arrived today so I haven’t even put it on yet but she told me I better go ahead and get some practice because she understands it takes some getting used to. I looked at her because I didn’t know where that came from. Apparently she had been reading this site. (I had mentioned this site a couple of times in the past). I better ask permission before the say too much more.
Looks like things are going well! I’m happy for you two. I’m reassured to hear she listened and was open to the idea and see how you are connecting on another level. I have my fingers crossed ours turned out the same. Thank you so much for responding.