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What do you seek from your cuckold fantasy? What sorts of things would you find most arousing in a cuckold experience?

Posted : 06/06/2022 12:56 pm
nevertoolate, subhubphx, nevertoolate and 3 people reacted
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It is about her having more physical pleasure than what I can give. A harder cock. A larger cock. More stamina. It could be one lover or more. I know my wife has had better lovers in the past when it comes to intercourse which is what she prefers. I don't think any woman should be denied maximum pleasure

Posted : 06/06/2022 1:31 pm
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Compersion. Period.

Posted : 06/06/2022 2:06 pm
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I'm not a man but my husband and I talk about this often to be sure his needs are met. He wants to feel like I am being satisfied and when I am satisfied he feels like he is doing his job as a husband. To sum it up, the word @AllAboutHer used. Compersion. He knows that he satisfies me completely emotionally. Why? Because I tell him often. He knows that my sexual needs are varied and whimsy. Sometimes I want him and passion. Sometimes I want a big toy that makes me whimper. Sometimes I want something that is not a toy. Communicate about needs that are not met but if you ask me it is even important to talk about needs that ARE being met.

When my needs are not met it isn't his fault but when he helps me meet my needs he shares in the joy of having very happy and fulfilled wifey. It is a winning recipe at least for us in our marriage.


Posted : 06/06/2022 3:08 pm
soforo, mickg93, nevertoolate and 10 people reacted
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As a guy who has the #1 objective the pleasure of my Queen that really has no bounds. That being said the fantasy within the most powerful sex organ, our brain, has the following components, she is desired by another male and she has the option to accept that attention, the conversation she has with her girlfriends about her freedom with them knowing I am fully onboard, the conversation we have where she discusses the potential, her getting ready, the thoughts of her being out, me locked and not knowing when she will be home and finally the evidence when she returns gives a rush that I can imagine is consistent with a cocaine high.

Posted : 06/06/2022 3:52 pm
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Posted by: @evolvingyourman_ivcr4j

What do you seek from your cuckold fantasy? What sorts of things would you find most arousing in a cuckold experience?

I don't currently have a cuckolding fantasy.  That said, the only thing I would find arousing about it would be seeing Ms. K., should she someday want to have sex with another man (or woman), engaged in what was sure to be amazing sex.  

Posted : 06/06/2022 4:42 pm
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Posted by: @allabouther

Compersion. Period.

Or, I guess my reply could've been more succinct like my friends here, and just as accurate.

Posted : 06/06/2022 4:44 pm
nevertoolate, TinCup, nevertoolate and 3 people reacted
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My perspective on this has certainly been changed and solidified by years of reading other's experiences and a few books that try to capture the science of human behavior. The modern attempts to define this are far ahead of what we had in the past.

My experiences early on led me to believe that women are capable of great things sexually and in spite of all the older attitudes I grew up with in the 60s, younger women have a great an appetite for sex and love as any man. They may approach it differently than men, but still have a hunger and yearning and passion as much as men.

I had to mature into accepting my wife desiring lovers. My rational mind knew it was positive and healthy for her, but my possessive more primitive emotional mind had a bit more to grow up.

When you love and desire someone as much as did her, seeing her excited and giddy to prepare to see a lover is something you feel the same inside. Compersion is the best word for it. Encapsulates pages of feelings. Some would say the time we shared together while she prepared or planned was a form of "foreplay." Some have also said that her time with her lover was a form of "foreplay" for our own relations later.

Being supportive in these things is certainly emotionally and sexually exciting. It could be called goddess worship, as I am amazed at how beautiful, sensual, and sexual women can be. When it is someone you love and cherish, it is all the better.

My wife was a romantic, with a need for validation. She explained to me her interest in other men was to feel desired. Husbands are primary, but eventually become routine and familiar. Some couples keep the romantic spark at the same levels of early courting. Most do not. Steeping out is as old as rain. Some cultures deal with it, ours is learning too.

There is a good reason many a romance novel features more than one man at a time competing for the woman's interests.

Cuckolding, hotwifing, taking a lover, or whatever you choose to call it, when done right is naturally female centered. When too much time is spent by the husband directing or dominating, or when the cuckolding becomes overly submissive for the husband, it takes away for the energy that should be centered through her. This is about her fulfillment, not a chore. As I mention to many newbies on another forum, be supportive, not needy.

Everyone benefits from her increased physical and emotional fulfillment, she, her lovers, and her adoring and supportive husband; the safe harbor she can always return to and count on.

Posted : 07/06/2022 11:39 am
lightndark, restrainedlove, subhubphx and 4 people reacted
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@evolvingyourman_ivcr4j  I don't remember who posted it, but I found this link on your site to a podcast of an interview with two people who have a loving cuckold relationship.  It is an interview in two parts, first with the wife and then with the cuck.  It is really interesting and 100% inconsistent with what people will see about cuckhold relationships by viewing cuckold porn.

Episode 37:  A Conversation with Scott and Kennedy - A Cuckhold Story

As an additional note, in host, Michael C., posted a series of really interesting pocasts with interviews of people living the chastity lifestyle during Locktober.

Episode 35:  Locktober Celebration - The Keyholders

If you're doing background for a blog post, these are worth a listen.

Posted : 07/06/2022 12:44 pm
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Essentially just the sheer joy of seeing my wife experience great pleasure - my go to fantasy involves her taking me locked to a boutique hotel where there’s a line of well hung men for her to choose from. They move off to a secluded room where she gets to decide whether I am permitted to sneak a look through the drawn curtains.

Posted : 09/06/2022 9:02 pm
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The psychology of fetishes and kink are so diverse it's hard to generalize about any of them. And while I agree with the comments and analysis of female-centered enjoyment, that doesn't necessarily equate to or fulfill the male's fantasy. And since you asked specifically about men's cuckolding fantasies, here are some of mine.

Only for Him

She does things for him that she won't do for me. For me, she's reserved and conservative and vanilla. She doesn't get off with me but he makes her cum so easily. She doesn't like to go down on me but she blows him and swallows eagerly. She hates anal play but lets him use her however he wants. She's uninhibited and wild and passionate for him and denies me the same things. Themes: humiliation, inadequacy, denial

Prep for a Date

She tells me she has a date and I watch her get ready. She has me lotion her shaved legs and help paint her nails. I watch as she puts on lingerie that she doesn't wear for me, knowing that another man will see it and take it off of her. She teases me the whole time, giving me a show and occasionally brushing or stroking me to ensure my arousal. I may or may not be caged, but I won't get any release and the mounting energy is excruciating. Themes: anticipation, compersion, denial

Locked Observer

Your story about the first encounter with Andrew hit this spot pretty much perfectly for me. I'm locked and won't be released, while she enjoys another man in front of me. He knows I'm locked and that causes him to really show off and rub it in. Knowing he will get to cum with my wife while I am denied is deliriously delicious. It's roughly the same whether I'm present or not; the idea of being locked and denied while she freely pleasures another man is heady stuff. Themes: humiliation, denial

Mixing in chastity, SPH, bisexual, public humiliation, etc. all add dimensions and different flavors depending on my mood.

Posted : 10/06/2022 6:15 am
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@philaster I see your point.  It seems the answer to Emma's question directly relates to the level of FLR you seek or enjoy.  My girlfriend and I are solidly in a level 2 FLR as humiliation is a "no-no" or hard limit for us.  Pleasure for her and compression for me would pretty much be the sum total for us.

But, if we were wired to get a sexual thrill from humiliation, a cuckold experience would pretty much kick open the door to another whole level of thrills and satisfaction wouldn't it?

Posted : 10/06/2022 9:23 am
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I don't have a cuckold fetish, so take this with a grain of salt.   I speculate that the cuckold fantasy is primarily a male driven fetish that stems from an addiction to porn.    If your main source of sexual gratification comes as a third person viewer of others and gratifying yourself physically, you create a mental feedback loop that this is the way it should be.    You then turn this fantasy onto your spouse or partner to essentially create your own real life porn scene where you get to watch.   When this fantasy is driven by the woman, my theory falls apart.   

No judgement here, and I know there are lots of people both male and female that are happy with this lifestyle and are getting what they want out of it.

For those men in a cuckold relationship, do you think there is any truth to this or did you have this desire from an early age before porn could have influenced your desire for a cuckold relationship?


Posted : 13/06/2022 8:01 am
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I would give you partial credit on this, but I don't think that's the majority reasoning. I'm guessing some of it's driven by the husband's desire to see his wife happy,  some by a humiliation desire, some as a natural path at the end of a wife led marriage.  Some as a chance to rekindle their sex life, hoping if her desire awakens with him, it will translate into attention back to the husband in some sexual way.  Varies reason's I'm sure.  It's a hard limit for me, so I have no desire to share a partner at all. 

Posted : 13/06/2022 11:02 am
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Posted by: @therachel

I'm not a man but my husband and I talk about this often to be sure his needs are met. He wants to feel like I am being satisfied and when I am satisfied he feels like he is doing his job as a husband.

I know this was a question for the men, but this does sum it up pretty well for me and my husband. Can't say I actually fully understand him - but it's what he tells me!

Posted : 13/06/2022 12:55 pm
soforo, dm6360, nevertoolate and 10 people reacted
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