So, I just wanna say, my bf and I reached to a point in our relationship that we have become so much in love, so trusting of each other, and so secure about our relationship that we feel we are good about spicing things up in our relationship and maybe exploring new things like other partners MAYBE. I will admit, neither of us have been big on non-monogamy. But however he and I agreed, that dont knock it till you try it. We talked about cuckolding but we felt that its such a huge leap that would just sit in a very odd way in our relationship, so we found swingers sex to be a more comfortable one. Swingers sex for those who dont know, its when a couple switch partners with one man taking the other guys woman and the other way around. We asked a couple who are friends and who have tried that and they even advised to try later one something called a gangbang swingers (didnt even know that was a thing). So in a gangbang swingers, my bf gets to have sex with all the other guys gfs while I get to have sex with all the guys. But thats a bit advanced in our relationship. So, any thoughts on the idea of swingers? how can it advance our relationship and any advice on the matter? Also not to mention, that while Rayan is sure about his sexuality with him being straight, I personally am not sure about my sexuality whether I am straight or bisexual, because I did have moments of me thinking of other women being hot and thinking it would be nice to have some fun with them, so the possibility of getting others to our bed can help me explore that too.
Interesting topic Sarah. Goddess and I are monogamous, but always curious about the lifestyle and have shared fanatasies about sex with other people.
As it relates to swinging, to me the fun would be sharing the experience together. While sex in separate rooms would be fun, I would miss out on seeing her expressions of joy and extasy. I would like to be there to see and hear everything.
If you do separate rooms, it may be important to frequently reconnect and share the details. Dishing about the experience right afterward and at home would seem like a very important component to a successful tryst. Just think of the fun retelling and reliving those moments!
I can relate to your excitement about the different combinations that may be afforded to you in a swing environment. Like you, I am exploring my feelings and attraction to the same sex (men for me). This may be a great way to realize those feelings and act out.
I hope you will continue to share this journey and I look forward to reading more Sarah!
@tincup Actually thank you for mentioning the whole room thing, we personally talked about that, and we agreed its best if for the first time we tried it in separate rooms, like the voice coming from the next room alone should be enough for the first time. Because I want him to be comfortable with the other woman without worrying about my opinion and I want to be comfortable with the guy without worrying about his. Maybe if we try it a second or third time, sharing the same bed can be a good idea. What are your thoughts on that?
Not to mention that he said that he might want the other woman to strapon on him. For the first time at least, I dont know if I would feel comfortable seeing that. You know, seeing my man fucked in the ass by another woman, so I prefer if each did it in a separate room, and for the first time at least, we dont mention it to each other.
For us, our first steps would be a swingers club/event, but with my wife being with another man while I and his partner watches.
I see what you mean about first times. There's tons of awkwardness and room for a great deal of anxiety with the other partner. I think you may have something there. Hell, anytime we introduce somrthing new it is a bit awkward at first. No amount oc pre-communication would prevent all anxiety. It may be best to go it alone first.
Just curious, how do you feel about another women taking your place of power with your man? I do not think Goddess would be cool with that. Conceptually, I think she would be better if I had a different role with other women.
In a scenario where you were swapping with the other couple and you were being intimate with the woman, what would you expect Rayan to do? Would he feel comfortable watching and masturbating? Would he feel weird if her male partner was there doing the same? Would that lead to curiosities or discomfort for him? The mind is whirling on the "can of worms" you brought up Sarah! LOL
@bestwhencaged Well, I dont know how Rayan will feel about that, I will ask him about it, but knowing him I think he will not like it. Also, Rayan was very understanding and open minded about me doing whatever I want while having sex with the other guy, is it selfish from my part if I put some rules for him? Like no pegging for him, and few other things?
@tincup While I would definitely want to have a bit of fun with the other woman, to at least explore how that goes with me, I dont know if I wold feel comfortable with Rayan doing anything with the other man. Gosh, I know I am sounding selfish but I would like if he sits there and plays with himself watching.
As for her fucking my man in the ass, I wouldnt feel comfortable with it unless it was in one specific scenario if I may be honest.
I kind of figured you would be more possessive with that act. I think pegging is one, if not the most intimate act in the femdom world. IMHO. I would not want to take that away from Goddess.
As for Rayan, he has given consent to you to dictate the terms. There's no need to feel guilty or like you are being selfish. He, like me, is fulfilled by giving up that control to you or my Goddess. I was just curious about what he would be allowed or felt comfortable to do while you were enjoying yourself with another women.
Good stuff Sarah!
@tincup Thank you. By the way, I have a question about pegging if you dont mind, I will post it in the pegging question and answers. Would appreciate your view on it.
Cool. Feel free to reach out any time. I look forward to reading. You know, if we keep posting like this we are going to make the first page of the members list! LOL.
Hahaha thats true. By the way, I wanna ask about a scenario Rayan and I talked about that we might try later on, most likely not for our first time. So before I do, I wanna say, I have nothing but love, appreciation and admiration for everyone no matter what your skin color was, and I dont mean to stereotype or anything. But, I am a white lady, and I honestly have an interracial fetish, I ask Rayan (also white) if he did as well and he literally tried to give every answer he can to make it sound like it was my idea and he isnt into it but not against it. However, I can tell CLEARLY from his reaction he liked my idea. So, my idea was if he liked that we can have an interracial swingers sex on the same bed where I get fucked by a black guy and he gets pegged by that guys black gf with a big black strapon dildo. And we both get fucked right next to each other. Plz, any thoughts on the scenario? And what things should he and I talk about before trying it? Again, I am saying this with all the love, appreciation and admiration for EVERYONE. Dont care what your skin color is or whatever, love you all equally.
You have such great enthusiasm, I love it!
I have had the pleasure to have sex with many kinds of women before I met Goddess. Women are super sexy in every color, shape and size. I am truly a "variety pack" guy. I totally get your interracial attraction or fetish.
I do not want to discourage you, but I do think this will be a challenge to put together. You may be searching high and low for that specific scenario and with people you trust and are attracted. You may experience several swinging attempts before you are able to pull off that exact type of scene. That said, you should go for it.
A couple of things come to mind. Not everyone is as honest and open about race as you and Rayan are. People's motives and mindsets may not mesh with yours. It seems obvious maybe, but I recommend getting to know the couple well beforehand. Email. Talk on the phone. Ask questions. Maybe meet for drinks without the immediate prospect for sex first. Look for signs of respect or the lack. See how they treat each other. Compare how he treats you to how he treats Rayan. The same goes with how she treats Rayan compared with you. If there is anything not cool, it should present itself. Nothing will ruin a hot time, like some bad vibes or someone's dark issues.
So do you plan on sucking some cock? What will be okay for Rayan to do while you are doing that? I'm sure he will appreciate you considering what he can do while you are busy. Remember , he wants you to be in charge and he is looking for you to lead him.
That brings up anoyher question. What will be the power dynamic and hierarchy be among the four of you? Will the fuckers be on a higher level than the fuckees? That would mean putting yourselves under control of the new couple. Would you still maintain control of Rayan or would your new man have control. This may fall into place soon after getting to knoewone another, but be prepared. If you have a preference, let it be known ahead of time.
If you are able to set this up, it sounds super hot and like a ton of fun! I could see myself getting a huge kick out of that!
@tincup First of all, thank you so much for the detailed response, wish I can get such from others here too. And yes, I know it will be difficult and heck maybe even impossible but I want to know if even trying the idea is a good one or not. Second, yeah of course, not just gonna jump in bed with a couple without knowing them very well, gotta take all those factors in consideration.
Finally and most importantly, no I dont see myself as dominant or controlling over him, I mentioned it earlier that we both see each other as equals, so I am not gonna order him around, however if we try it with another couple, the other couple will be the ones dominant over us both. Like to emphasize on the first points I mentioned about knowing the couple too well, I would want Rayan and I to be both bent over, hands tied behind our backs and being fucked hard. Me being fucked by the guy and Rayan by the guys gf. So, sure there can be a bit of humiliation in it, but after it, we would want them to still respect us after it.
Okay. I guess I missed a few things and your response clears them up.
If you both play the subs in that way, trust is even more important. Think of how you had to work to gain Rayan's trust before you pegged him the first time.
It sounds like you know what you want. Go for it and good luck. Please post the details.