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New to the site but I will get right to it, my boyfriend is straight but I have a fantasy with watching him and another guy. I like to watch gay porn sometimes and find it incredibly erotic because maybe it is more genuine. Two beautiful male bodies intertwined is so sexually charged while some male female porn is staged or fake. My boyfriend has never given me any indication that he has bisexual tendencies but we do enjoy pegging together. I know pegging isnt gay but he does enjoy anal. Men can be sensitive about these things but how can I have this discussion and where it goes?
In my mind eye he is making out with the other guy, massaging each other then it progresses to the other guy's pants coming off and my boyfriend dropping to his knees. My boyfriends clothes come off and they are both nude with my boyfriend eventually being bent over the side of the bed for the other guy. I would LOVE to watch this and I think my boyfriend would like it too. In my fantasy I don't have a part in it, I just watch and I don't even masturbate I just enjoy watching and the turn on is huge! I had experiences with other women before we got together and was reluctant because of stigma but I think he can get over that and would enjoy himself.
Posted : 08/10/2021 11:41 am
but how can I have this discussion and where it goes?
What is the dynamic of your relationship. Is he submissive to you in any way?
Posted : 08/10/2021 11:46 am
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What is the dynamic of your relationship. Is he submissive to you in any way?
Yes I am more dominat in our relationship a typical bossy Columbian woman you could say!
Posted : 08/10/2021 11:54 am
@elika Well, in an attempt to help find a way, maybe you should let him know of what your fantasy is. Depending on the nature of your relationship, it's either a hard limit or it is not, and if not ... there you go. He should be eager to help you achieve the things in your life that bring you joy.
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Posted : 08/10/2021 11:59 am
Based on my personal experience, I agree with subhub. Finding the right time and place isn't always easy, but good communication in a relationship is paramount and will avoid problems later on. I think we spend too much time defining labels of either/or in relationships instead of both/and. Just because I find one or both genders attractive does not make me straight or gay it is, simply, a reflection of my sexuality and most of us are on a sliding scale depending upon circumstances, people, and situations.
Creating a safe space in relationship for experimentation, learning, and growing is far more important than defining one's labels.
Posted : 09/10/2021 3:47 am
I think we spend too much time defining labels of either/or in relationships instead of both/and.
Spot on @subwilliam!!!!
I think this is the biggest problem we face in the world, let alone out little comfy slice of kinky heaven in it. Always feeling the need to define someone, then, based on that dubious and poorly thought out definition, put them in a confining box that all but eliminates them from expressing themselves in any way outside that box. It's bullshit!
I have zero interest in having sex with another man for the mere sake of having sex. I just don't find men the least bit appealing sexually. However, being in subspace, and if my my Mistress ever felt like that was something she would like to have happen because she, and she alone would gain pleasure from it, then it's an entirely different matter because it would be the desire to please her that would allow it to happen.
Most people simply can't comprehend how such a thing is even possible, let alone understand it.
Posted : 09/10/2021 5:44 am
@elika You need to become more Dominant in your relationship and demand your boy friend wear a chastity cage, if he already does not. Tell him your fantasy and your desire to see him with another man. He already enjoys you pegging him, so you are half way there. Do you make him suck your strap on? If you don't, maybe start making him do that. Maybe start cutting back on PIV sex and make pegging him, his only way to have an orgasm. But I do think you need to become more Dominant and your fantasy will come true.
Posted : 09/10/2021 5:51 am
@elika I dont know many things about bisexual within flr but i do think communiction,trust and honestly is the way to go.
If you tricked or exclude things to force someone they may get hurt or even rebel.
This is my gut feeling not facts.
Posted : 12/10/2021 9:07 am
