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What are some of your turn ons? Turn offs? No descriptions or stories, just lists. I'll start. It can be feelings, traits, physical traits

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Turn Ons

  • Kev's Lustful eyes & expressions
  • Denial & Empowerment
  • Being in control
  • His moans and whimpers
  • Honesty
  • Shows of Affection and Acts of Service
  • Kind heart
  • Sense of humor
  • Nice Chest, Shoulders & Arms
  • Good hygiene & hair
  • Cologne
  • Green or blue eyes
  • Jealousy (this is on both lists)
  • Threesome
  • Intelligence
  • Confidence
  • Slightly cocky

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Turn Offs

  • Dishonesty
  • Anger, bullying, meanness
  • Whiny and nagging
  • Surprises of any kind
  • Group sex (more than 3)
  • Racism and hate
  • Bad breath
  • Crooked teeth
  • Misogynistic
  • Overly "woke" or trying too hard to be
  • Too cocky or arrogant
  • Too needy



Posted : 06/08/2022 12:18 pm
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A few of my turn-ons would include:

  • Making my Wife happy!
  • Older women, 50+
  • Women that take charge but can still be playful
  • Women that know what they want and aren't afraid to go after it
  • Pegging
  • Experience and wisdom
  • Women who wear glasses, "teacher" look
  • Compersion (for both of us)
  • Discipline when warranted, rather than capriciously
  • Talking about fantasies and working to fulfill them for each other
Posted : 07/08/2022 5:40 am
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  • Self Confidence (own it)
  • Playfulness
  • Humor
  • Back hip dimples ? 
  • Buns?
  • Curves
  • Natural odor
  • Women in charge
  • Fantasy
  • Compersion
  • MMF
  • Lingerie
  • Lust


  • Vanity
  • Apathy
  • Excessive make-up
  • Perfume
  • Smoking
  • Pressure
  • Judgement
  • Government
Posted : 07/08/2022 7:07 am
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Turn Ons:

  • Her smell especially when she wakes up
  • Subspace
  • Her small waist
  • Her torso
  • Red Hair
  • Smoothly shaved who-ha
  • Confidence and decisiveness
  • Compersion
  • Neck nuzzling
  • Pegging
  • Being held to a standard
  • Knowing punishment is coming when standard not met.
  • Fantasizing about Ms. K. having a submissive girl for herself
  • Intelligence
  • Confidence
  • skill

Turn Offs:

  • Arrogance
  • Ignorance (especially when combined with arrogance)
  • Tentative, nervous people
  • Obliviousness
  • Body odor
  • Poor hygiene
  • Braggers
  • Humble Braggers
  • Vanity
  • Entitlement
  • Too Needy
  • Not being needy enough
  • disloyalty
  • lack of trust
  • lying
Posted : 07/08/2022 8:54 am
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. . . 

  • Government

LOL.  Nothing makes me go soft faster than thinking about our government!

Posted : 07/08/2022 9:55 am
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Posted by: @subhubphx

Turn Ons:

. . .

  • Confidence and decisiveness

Turn Offs:

. . .

  • Ignorance (especially when combined with arrogance)

You got the top on both my lists.

Posted : 07/08/2022 9:58 am
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Turn Ons:






Turn Offs:



Racism & Hate


Posted : 07/08/2022 11:40 am
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Turn ons:

  • Empathy
  • Intelligence
  • Can converse beyond small talk (I hate small talk)
  • Confidence
  • Petite ? 
  • Fidelity
  • Cuddling
  • Willingness to put me in my place
  • Patience (I'm very slow to warm up to people)

Turn offs:

  • Narcissism
  • Arrogance
  • Rudeness
  • Entitlement
  • Infidelity
  • Smoking
  • Small talk ? 
  • Pushy
  • Attended UVA
  • Shallow
Posted : 07/08/2022 5:47 pm
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  • Turn offs
  • Lazy ness
  • Gym rats
  • Complaining
  • Procrastination 
  • Lingerie
  • Turn ons
  • Rough hands(working hands)
  • Work ethic
  • Someone who is patient with me
  • A natural woman in every way

Posted : 08/08/2022 12:34 pm
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This is a surprisingly hard question to answer, because I don't think that my answers would be consistent from day to day.

Probably my biggest turn-on is when my wife knows that she is complete in charge and it emanates from her every pore. But another huge turn-on is when she is enjoying herself ... just her enjoyment (e.g. from something as simple and innocuous as me rubbing her feet, or as lascivious as my fingers inside her making her suddenly gushing wet) makes me absolutely thrilled to be alive.

My wife almost never turns me off, so I'm going to have to think a lot harder about that one. Perhaps if I am made to feel unappreciated, that is a turn-off.

In general, though, my biggest turn-offs are when I see someone punching down. Whether it's berating a service worker, or bullying a co-worker. A lack of personal self-care is also a turn-off, but not in the same "hurting someone else" way ... it's a turn-off because they are hurting themselves.

Posted : 09/08/2022 8:46 am
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This is a fun topic. I love all the turn ons! I suppose I could have done without the turn-offs as well @true42.

Almost everybody put confidence as a big turn on and that is such a big thing for women. Everything we do from girls to women tells us not to be confident. When you finally feel confident with a loving partner it is like a weight off your shoulders. Not only is it a turn on for you but it is an aphrodisiac for us. I feel like this is ubiquitous so I am taking this as a rare opportunity to speak for all womankind.

Posted : 19/08/2022 12:17 am
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