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I hate that so much femdom type porn is degrading and humiliating to the male. A Female Led Relationship is a beautiful dynamic. Sometimes strong men want to follow the lead of an equally strong woman. I wish there was a way to normalize a dominant female dynamic of a relationship. Yes. I have a dominant personality. Yes. I bring that into my relationship. Yes. It works quite well for Kevin and I. 

I just went on a pornhub binge and was thoroughly disappointed with everything that I saw. I guess I just needed to rant.

Posted : 21/11/2020 1:56 pm
restrainedlove, nevertoolate, attisC and 17 people reacted
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I agree. It's the same with erotic fiction. I look at stories on Literotica but femdom stories with genuine respect and love between the characters are sadly few and far between.

Posted : 21/11/2020 2:07 pm
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Posted by: @evolvingyourman_ivcr4j

I hate that so much femdom type porn is degrading and humiliating to the male. A Female Led Relationship is a beautiful dynamic.

Thank you!  I love so much that you have evolved to such a proponent of a loving, beautiful FLR/WLM.  Porn fueled depiction of of a WLM is just not accurate.  There is so so much to a real WLM that gets lost in porn.  Again, thank you.

Posted : 21/11/2020 2:28 pm
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I guess that the creators of porn are pandering to the market, and so seemingly there must be a large market for this type of material. Most films, porn or otherwise, tend to exaggerate the more dramatic elements of a story, and the softer, more tender elements get lost in the over dramatization.


And the more extreme the elements are portrayed yesterday means that they have to up the anti today and who knows what it will look like tomorrow. My husband told me that there is a rise in porn material that takes male chastity even further and focuses on castration and penectomy!

Posted : 22/11/2020 12:53 am
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Porn is really no different than any other form of media when it comes to deliver overly dramatic bullshit.  Like other forms of media, it's a self perpetuating thing.  Think about it ... if a couple became interest in pegging let's say, and wanted to look into it and learn, they're likely to see things that unrealistic and no practicable.  A young wife that fancies rogering her husband now and again and wants to learn more about it may begin to believe she needs to do it thigh-high leather boots with 6" heels and 12" monster dildo.  

You're right Tara ... they give us exactly what we seem to show them what we want.  It's up to us individually to have the courage to wade through the bullshit and be realistic about the things we like because we like them.

It's like anything else in life ... the ignorant will believe the first thing they see, read or hear no matter the topic.  It's why ignorance is the most valuable commodity in the world.

Posted : 22/11/2020 4:36 am
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Here is mine (our) story. I worked in a high stress job, in charge of a lot of people. After work, I really didn’t feel like talking care of anything. I just wanted to decompress, slowly my wife took over all the financial matters. Then she was deciding what our plans for the weekend would be, if we are going to eat out, go to clubs etc.. Before we got married we did have kinky fun, so as she slowly took charge it was my idea to use a chastity device. Unfortunately due to the nature of my job I could only use it on the weekends. 
Prior to coming home every night I would call to let her know I was on my way, if she had made plans to go out, or stay in, she would say so and tell me that my clothes are already laid out. It would always consist of my CB and panties. It was not to demeaning, just a way to reinforce her leadership, and it was always a secret between us.

Posted : 24/11/2020 6:09 pm
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@mstara It's not just porn that's stimulating.
I was never originally a visual type. That's why I wasn't interested.
But there were always very few women who encouraged me to move forward.

Posted : 13/04/2023 3:48 am
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I hate that so much femdom type porn is degrading and humiliating to the male. 


Well Emma - I'm sorry you feel this way, but a plausible argument can be made that your version of a female led relationship is: "FLR light" It's almost as if you're humbly asking the man's permission to be his dominant partner - which he wants. Your touchy feely soap opera version of the FLR is why I left here months ago. You might also consider the porn market is a market like any other, and a more hardcore approach to FLR's is simply what most men crave.  

Posted : 14/04/2023 5:52 pm
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Posted by: @williamportor

Your touchy feely soap opera version of the FLR is why I left here months ago.

Yet here you are?

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Posted : 15/04/2023 5:38 am