Some Wisdom Here - It's All About Her
"Because part of what it is he will get a good experience from, is you owning that space."
It's a YouTube video by someone named Ms. Elle X. You can find it here. Although the question she is asked and answers has to do with a newbie Domme and her first scene, you may notice the wisdom of knowing 'it's all about her' permeates throughout the advice given, just like it does (or should) in a WLM/FLR and the important that get discussed here. I thought it might be interesting to y'all.
From her "About" section on YouTube:
Ms. Elle X is a Lifestyle Domme, BDSM Educator, Dominant Trainer, Erotica Author, and Licensed Relationship Coach (2013) with a profound gift for revealing the intimate power of the BDSM Lifestyle in a safe and non-threatening way, so every couple and dynamic can find a taste of something they enjoy in the "kinky buffet."
These are good introductory videos. Very calm and easy to absorb.
Have not watched the videos yet, but the "It's all about her" is very good advice and a motto to follow in your decision making as a submissive, serving husband. Coming from a service oriented, "pleaser" upbringing, this is a natural state of thinking. Am I doing this for me or her?