Part of the excitement is the fact that only he and I know. As I read this, I keep thinking that sharing our/his secret with someone would be insane! ...

@nika Thank you that is what I am starting to get. There is a learning curve but what I am learning is the point isn't the cage its the effect of the ...

I think C because that is when most guys start to get lazy from what I have seen.

Thank you. At least I am not crazy. I thought I was supposed to find the cage sexy but I was like um. not really. ? ? ? ?

I am sure he will read this so I am not going to give specifics like our ages or how long we've been experimenting with it. Too many details.