There are few places on a man’s body that can elicit such a range of responses. Yes I am speaking of physical responses, from pain to pleasure and everything in between but this takes many levels.
CBT explores the most fascinating of all organs, the penis. Dispute if you will but it physically increases in size when aroused, decreases in size when arousal drops. The penis accumulates emotional baggage that forms the entire personality of a man. Performance anxiety, penis envy, erectile dysfunction and even the term manhood show how closely linked this organ is to the self worth and identity of a man. Taking these mostly negative and anxiety producing aspects of the male experience and creating a scene with his literal manhood and identity in your hands is exhilarating and deeply intimate.
Why do men like it?
Why do men like anything? Why do any of us like anything? Ok I’m not going to get too existential. Many men identify as a masochist and enjoy the pain whether physical or emotional. Some men find the loss of control and intimacy of handing their fate to their trusted partner as deeply erotic. Due to the intensity of the sensations, some men may need CBT to feel aroused or even to climax. Many men do it simply because it pleases their partner and perhaps their pleaser fetish exerts a certain level of compersion to the pleasure of their partner over the punishment they are receiving. Some simply do it to experience the vast range of emotion that ball-busting and CBT allow. This falls in line with the desire to be embarrassed or humiliated and experience the accompanying emotions.
Why to women like it?
Women like this sort of thing for many reasons but my therapist says bondage and dominance comes from a deep need to control my relationship and my partner. The arousal comes from the need for power that I have over my partner. Knowing that he is helpless to resist and must comply with every wish is an incredible turn-on even though there is a safe-word in the wild. Pulling or tugging only takes his restraint to a place of mild discomfort as a reminder of his place in this fantasy. The penis and testicles are inherently masculine and controlling such masculine “objects” is tremendously pleasurable. A situation where a man is deeply emasculated to the point where their balls are truly in your hand can feel incredible.
What does CBT feel like?
I don’t have balls so I don’t know but Kev said that they are perhaps like breasts to some level where a little bit of pressure feels good and even some pain can feel good but if you get punched in the tit you are going to feel very uncomfortable. Even gentle pressure on balls can be painful at times because men are truly exposed and vulnerable. The thought that a soft touch can bring pleasure and a firm grab can put them at the edge of their very pain tolerance is exhilarating for both the giver and the receiver. There are so many unique toys for this purpose. We have two. One is a pillory which restrains him by the wrists and base of his penis in a standing position. The other is the much feared and revered humbler. Both of these devices are deeply immobilizing and dare I say, fun!
Risks
Ideas & Experimentation
- Ball Busting – Typically kicking and kneeing in the nuts.
- Femdom Handjob – You control the deliberate balance of pleasure and pain.
- Ball Stretching – Pulling the testicles away from the body using hands or toys.
- Ball Crushing – Exerting force to smash the balls, not typically impact play but gradual and increased pressure.
- Chastity Cages – Cages with spikes and teeth can be purchased to exert force especially as arousal happens and erections increase.
- Urethral Play – Inserting things into the urethra to stretch or penetrate.
- Electric Play – Involves electric stimulation of the sensitive areas.
Fetishizing
Summary
“Knowing that he is helpless to resist and must comply with every wish is an incredible turn-on even though there is a safe-word in the wild. Pulling or tugging only takes his restraint to a place of mild discomfort as a reminder of his place in this fantasy. The penis and testicles are inherently masculine and controlling such masculine “objects” is tremendously pleasurable. A situation where a man is deeply emasculated to the point where their balls are truly in your hand can feel incredible”.
I know this was listed as why she likes it but if I was a poet I couldn’t have put it better for my I love ball torture. Cock torture visually is fine but you could run my dick over with a Mack truck when I’m hard and I wouldn’t flinch. I feel like at least for me a hard cock is impervious to pain. The real crux of it for me is I am 6’4” 300 lbs my wife’s 5’3” a buck forty so without my consent to be tied up or restrain myself there is a great deal of suspending belief that she can physically control me. Not when my balls are in her hands though. I get to experience the rush I crave the most. feeling smaller weaker betrayed by the pinnacle of my masculinity turning me into a little bitch begging for mercy and not knowing if she will grant that request.🤤 that’s the stuff of my personal submissive dreams. Also it has gradually increased in intensity but we are on the very gentle end of CBT. Even at that level it has a profound effect on both of us. I think it is the single act that puts me in sub space and her in dom space faster and more completely then any other. It’s also great outside of the bedroom. Anytime I’m not working you’ll usually find me with both but a pair of basketball shorts protecting my junk. So when she leans in to kiss me and grabs my balls and says “mine” I’ll usually have to grab a seat for a minute till things calm down. Really awesome stuff lately I love to see the fan base growing on Twitter as well. It’s not often on these mean internet streets that great independent blogs really blowup I hope you take this to the moon. I think your ideas can help a lot of lost couples find a new and exciting path.
“The other is the much feared and revered humbler.”
Want! Want to be put into a humbler. I know it’s not about what I want, and currently Ms. K. doesn’t want, but I still want.
My wife has a long term FWB that loves CBT and they introduced it maybe 4-5 months ago at his request. At first I think she was a bit take aback but then decided if that’s what got him off, she’d oblige. She then and to this day insists that it does nothing for her sexually but she has no problem providing it so that he can enjoy. It’s now every time they are together and involved squeezing (cock and balls) as well as biting.
At first I was curious but she refused to demonstrate as it isn’t her thing and she has no interest in exploring it with me. Sometimes she feels bad because it’s hard and has to hurt him but he also enjoys it. She now tells me “that was fun” after their time together so I suspect she must enjoy something about it.
He enjoys her biting his cock and then sliding his pained cock inside her warmth… they could go back and forth like this alternating between fucking and biting until he finally lets go.
I’m not sure I could stomach any CBT, but it does make me curious what they go thru.
The way I found out I liked it was when I first started masturbating and went to the well 1 to many times and was having trouble getting across the finish line. I just instinctively started to work the balls the rougher I handled them the better it felt and I don’t know why but I gave them a gentle smack and that did the trick big time! So if you’re curious and your wife is not that keen on it, it’s some thing you 100% can explore on your own and see if it’s something you’d enjoy.