Our intercourse sessions are very passionate. I think if most women could witness them, they might find it unbelievable. But this is the way a man responds to a woman’s vagina when he is stimulated with it daily without ejaculation. The sobbing, crying and screaming are par for the course as I ride him in his pre-climax state letting him rest only when I’m riding his face for my orgasm. I’ve become very skilled in the saddle, backing off to give him some space so he doesn’t spill but not too far so he falls out of his pre-climax state.
I think every woman wants the power to fuck her husband’s brains out, and ladies, once you’ve introduced your husband to his new life of retaining with an ejaculation schedule, that’s exactly what will happen each and every time you have sex, not just on a birthday or anniversary. My husband is delirious during intercourse and takes a while to get his head on straight afterward. Note: Your husband should not drive after sex like this, and performing even simple tasks like pouring a glass of water can be a challenge as his brain is swimming in all those neuro transmitters. Now that’s erotic power. Of late, my husband is begging to have another week or even month off from retaining as I ride him hard and relentless which can make it difficult for him to reach that 7th day for ejaculation while on the verge of release without spilling.
I’ve mentioned having a ceremony where he would vow only to ejaculate when given permission by me. But he really seems to be dragging his feet on this issue, so I decided to go ahead and make it easy on him and set the Terms of Entry to my vagina. He may be uncertain about that kind of commitment, but I’m not. And I feel certain that at this point in my life that I will not be in a relationship with a man that is not retaining and on an ejaculation schedule. I think any woman that has tried this would feel the same way.
As a woman, I have the right to decide on the terms and conditions that I will participate in a relationship with a man, and the man of course has the right to choose a different path with a different woman. But if my husband wants to enter my vagina, these are the terms that he must abide by:
- He must practice semen retention.
- He must abide by the ejaculation schedule I set.
- He will submit to the agreed upon consequences for unauthorized ejaculation.
I don’t set these terms lightly, but the trial period is over. There is no question our relationship is better in every respect under this system. I’ll relate the experience of coming to this obvious realization that I have rights too. This is a two way street.
During one of our sessions where he’s half out of his mind and begging to take maybe a 30 day break from this which will certainly never happen, I thought what would Lady Elizabeth Bathory do? The answer in my head was she would probably hang him upside down, cut his throat, drain his blood and bathe in it. Okay, wrong person to ask. Note to self, don’t ever ask Liz for advice. So, in the throws of excruciating pleasure as he’s asking this, I slap him in the face and state firmly, “As long as your under this roof, this is your life. You’ll be retaining with a schedule. Don’t ask about it again. Now, pump!” I call that setting the Terms of Entry. It’s been over a year. He should be used to this by now, and he is, but during the throws of passion, he can drift to being a little goal oriented toward ejaculation, and it helps to (if I can borrow a term form my college behaviorism days) helicopter the dog. And I do this by periodically setting the terms of entry to remind him of the terms and conditions of being in a relationship with me especially when he starts yearning to be a free ejaculator again. In the throws of passion with the crying and begging, he needs something to refocus him occasionally on what his primary task is. And that’s to “pump” and hit that A-spot (see chap10). Setting the Terms of Entry help remind him why I allow him in there in the first place, and it’s not for him to ejaculate except for about once a week. The rest of the time is about the pleasure of intercourse for both of us.
It’s up to the women to be strong and have resolve about the ejaculation schedule in the height of passion. If not, spills will be inevitable. Is this cruel? When you set the Terms of Entry, pay attention to his penis that’s pulsing inside you. Does it get even harder than it was before or seem like it gets softer? I find the firmer and sterner I am setting the Terms of Entry on a regular basis the more he responds to it. I only have to look at and feel his penis to know how he feels about things that he may be too ashamed to admit.
Helicoptering the dog is an analogy borrowed from dog training. Sometimes, working with dominant aggressive breeds like the ones used for law enforcement, the trainer must establish dominance, as the dog, no matter what you do, thinks he’s the boss. It really should only be done to a highly aggressive breed that is actually trying to kill/attack the trainer. To do this the trainer will take the dogs lead and swing the dog by the neck like a helicopter rotor blade. Of course, I’ve never done this to a dog. I don’t even have a fraction of the strength required to do it or the heart. But the trainer does it for the dogs own good and to save it from being classified as untrainable. It can take the tenacity of even the most alpha human male to overcome a dog like this and establish dominance. But once done, the dog knows without question who is dominant, and he can have a productive edifying life. If you were to ask my husband, he would say his life is much more edifying and productive with a strong resolute female controlling his ejaculation schedule.
I think “Helicoptering the Dog” is a good analogy for setting the terms of entry to your vagina and a good metaphor for the kind of resolve it can take to keep a man from releasing in the throws of passion. Remember, I said “metaphor.” It’s just a stern verbal reminder (and maybe a slap with it) of who’s in charge of the schedule, and it’s not him. He sometimes needs to be reminded of what his life now is, and the Terms of Entry need to be repeated periodically as he’s completely out of his mind with passion. Don’t forget he’s receiving the best sex he’s ever had, and he’ll be grateful for your resolve maybe a half hour after intercourse is over and his head is starting to clear, and when his ejaculation day does arrive, it will be the sweetest release he’s ever had.
Thankfully, my husband chooses to abide by these terms as he knows his needs transcend what he may want. As always, these things should be discussed in depth between the couple. We have weekly companion inventories that are a set aside time where concerns can be brought up. Open communication is paramount in a relationship. We all know what men want. The trick is knowing what they need. I feel it’s my responsibility not to give him what he wants, but what he needs. Giving him what he wants will only damage our relationship. And ultimately, what he needs will give him more than he ever thought to want.
~Namaste
Thanks to my hubby for help with the website ….and for the orgasms.
DISCLAIMER: This blog depicts the loving consensual agreed upon relationship between the author and her husband. Every relationship should be safe, sane and consensual. Anything else is illegal. This blog is not meant to substitute for your personal due diligence and is not to be taken as medical advice.
22 comments:
Anonymous
Monday, December 12, 2016
Hi Yoga Girl! This is an excellent blog and resource. Thank you for doing it. I showed it to my wife, and I’m hoping she reads it.
That’s a great point about giving him what he needs as opposed to what he wants. I know I need a strong women controlling my ejaculation schedule, and it will ultimately make me happier then having an ejaculation whenever I want.
I have a question about accidents. It seems that when I am retaining well for a few days, the build up will cause some amount of semen, or fluids to trickle out, even if I feel I have stopped several strokes short of really losing it.
Do you consider this an accident that needs “corrective measures?” How does your husband prevent loosing anything with such intense stimulation?
Yoga Girl
Monday, December 12, 2016
No, I don’t count precum as an ejaculation. My husband has pulled out and paused for 15-20 seconds and then oozed his whole load without orgasm. That’s a different story and requires correction. That’s only happened a couple of times.
I hope hope your wife enjoys and gets something out of the blog.
~Namaste
Yoga Girl’s Husband
Saturday, December 17, 2016
“How does your husband prevent losing anything with such intense stimulation?”
I find the best control is just to back off when I sense ejaculation is becoming imminent. Stop thrusting and engage in intimate kissing for a bit until she spurs me to resume thrusting to stimulate her A-Spot (cervix). Plus YG has a knack of sensing when I’m going to lose it which I think stimulates her tremendously, and she jumps on my face to finish her orgasm which leaves me completely unstimulated, and I focus on oral to her clit. Spills are pretty rare. Also, control is better for me when she rides on top which is all the time unless it’s ejaculation day, and then she’ll let me be on top for my orgasm.
Anonymous
Thursday, December 15, 2016
Hi Yoga Girl. l think if woman cares so much about her man, he should be grateful and also show his initiative by supporting her with his semen retention.If man is intelligent and loving, he will accept semen retention, because it is his real nature. Women must be strong because the happiness of her family is in her hands.
Yoga Girl
Saturday, December 17, 2016
I agree. We have found much greater intimacy as a couple. I believe a relationship is about love, intimacy and passion, and this system has helped us take our relationship from a 7 to a 10.
Anonymous
Saturday, December 17, 2016
Hi Yoga Girl. I think you should discuss this commitment with your husband during your companion inventories as you usually do.When your husband married you he gave a vow to love and cherish you, so if he is an intelligent man, he will follow ejaculation schedules and semen retention.There are more than enough info, that semen retention is beneficial for men.It’s approved by tantric men who respect their and female nature.
Yoga Girl
Saturday, December 17, 2016
Oh, he’s committed to it. But I understand that his commitment can wane as I ride him in the throws of passion, and I do what I can to help him maintain our goal of retaining. Maybe someday he will be able to experience an orgasm without ejaculation.
Anonymous
Saturday, December 17, 2016
Hi,I have a question,do you think penis exercises with penis weight can help with semen retention and delay ejaculation.
Yoga Girl
Saturday, December 17, 2016
I assume your referencing strengthening the PC muscle. I think if your relying on the PC muscle to delay, you may be too close. You might want to back off before you feel like you need to employ the PC muscle which may not be that effective anyway. You might find some useful info here:
http://www.the-relationship-works.com/premejac1.html
There’s a simple way not to ejaculate for the male, and it works very well for my husband. He stops moving which decreases arousal dialing him back where he can resume pumping for awhile to get me to my orgasm.
Mike Pahula
Thursday, December 22, 2016
FEmale wife or girlfriend or female friends should alway led and be boss in every realotnionship men have with their female or risk the punishment from female which would be spankings real one
Yoga Girl
Wednesday, December 28, 2016
Thanks for the comment, Mike. People will have to see where retention takes them.
Anonymous
Tuesday, December 27, 2016
I think you are a good wife and woman, who merits to be loved and cherished. Thank you for sharing your useful experience and blog,l am looking forward for your new posts. Have a nice day.
Yoga Girl
Wednesday, December 28, 2016
Thanks, It’s always rewarding to hear that somebody is getting something out of it. I think my little booklet is fairly complete. People can try it for a week or two and compare the quality of their relationship before and after. I make no recommendations.
vicst
Wednesday, December 28, 2016
Hello Yoga Girl:
I practice semen retention, with a little help from my wife. She will set an ejaculation day for me, and let me know when that day arrives. She says “you can take care of that today” which means I can masturbate and orgasm/ejaculate. She provides no other involvement or any stimulation. I have basically imposed this retention on myself to show my devotion to her, and curb my previous maturation habits.
I will absolutely agree with you about the effects this can have on a male. I feel stronger and stronger devotion to Her, and now serve Her in the ways she allows (domestic chores, etc.) AND my sexual energy has never been stronger!
This mostly self-imposed dicipline is often tough for me but I’ve learned to be successful with it.
I will continue and pray that the day comes when She will be sexuality with me. I am in awe of you and your relationship with your husband, and LOVE your blog. It speaks very deeply to me.
Thank you, vic
Yoga Girl
Wednesday, December 28, 2016
Thanks, Vic. I’m glad your getting benefit from it, and discovering your true nature by not spilling your seed. I’m always amazed how it changes my husband’s nature just by the simple act of retaining.
I hope your wife will see the benefit of being more intimate with you soon. I know from my experience, that sex with a retaining male is an intense one.
Anonymous
Thursday, December 29, 2016
Hi Yoga Girl You say men are followers in tantra,so flr is natural relationship.Do you think men discover their real nature through flr, and what benefits are for both.
Yoga Girl
Thursday, December 29, 2016
I think other people may have said that in the comments sections somewhere, but I don’t recall saying it not that I disagree with the statement. I think from my observation of the one male I’m with which may apply to many other men is that practicing retention predisposes him to follow. If my man were just practicing a FLR but ejaculating frequently, he would not be predisposed to follow. So it might be more accurate to state that my man discovered his true nature through retaining which is to practice a FLR. Other men may respond differently to retention. They may be merely more passionate with their wives and that may be enough. That would be a success by any marriage counselor’s standards.
I will just state the benefits that apply to my husband and myself. They may or may not apply to other couples.
For me: I get a lover that is fully engaged and desires me fully rather than a partner that’s just going through the motions. When he has sex, he truly wants it. It restores the the courtship phase to our marriage which is no easy trick after 10+ years of marriage. Every woman I think wants to be desired by her man not just used for his appetite and then discarded. Retention accomplishes that for us.
For him: As he retains, he experiences the most intense sex he’s ever had. The biggest drawback of course is that the session ends without ejaculation but that’s the price he pays for the best sex he’s ever had. Talking to my husband, his biggest pleasure is to see me use his body for my own gratification. He sees his penis as a tool for my use in obtaining my orgasms with no return for him (at least in terms of ejaculation, but he does get pleasure from intercourse). It gives him a chance to be selfless and to be in service. He desires to be used and abused. To that end, I enforce retention and the schedule as it benefits the relationship for both of us. And I reward him by using and abusing him. This was the hardest thing for me to wrap my brain around. I think for many women this will be hard to understand. But it can mean either reward him by using and abusing him or living normally and being used and abused by him in terms of just living as a normal couple in a bland relationship of normalcy. We want more than normalcy. When we make love their is only the intensity of the moment. Both parties are completely engaged, i.e., passion.
If he cleans more etc. That’s just fringe benefit. We can ratchet that up or down depending on the schedule. It’s nice but doesn’t supersede the goal of more passion. Really, each couple will need to peel that onion in their companion inventories where they can express themselves freely without judgement as to what their wants and needs are and establish goals as a couple. For example: My husband really wants me to embrace my inner bitch. Knowing this, I know I can go there if I desire. It doesn’t mean that I will. I doubt that I could give him the full bitch treatment he desires. It seems like a game at first and then retention settles in as a lifestyle. Retention with the schedule is the one constant. That’s become a non-negotiable.
~Namaste
Anonymous
Thursday, December 29, 2016
Hello Yoga Girl,
Thank you so much for your blog and being so detailed to help all of us. May I ask how old you and your husband are please? Also, what are your thoughts on prostate massage and prostate milking?
Thank you, namaste.
Yoga Girl
Friday, December 30, 2016
I’m not sure that info is pertinent. I’d like to actually recommend this blog to people I know without them thinking “My god, that’s her!” not that it would be huge deal, but I prefer to keep it minimal.
As far as prostate milking is concerned, my thought’s are it’s hard to do. My fingers are short barely reaching it, and the whole experience is uncomfortable. I’ve never been that successful at it. If you do it, know what your doing before you start poking around in there. Damage is possible. My husband thought he would try milking his prostate if we did an extended ejaculation schedule and tried the aneros, but really it was more trouble than it was worth to him. It’s something you have to learn to use, and he didn’t want to put the time into it. Plus, he’s just not that into anal. So, he just waits to drain it on ejaculation day.
Anonymous
Friday, December 30, 2016
Thank you. I’ve been fortunate enough to have practiced on a previous partner so prostate milking is quite easy for us. I wondered how you would see if fitting into the ejaculation schedule? Would it count as his E, considering a lot of semen is produced without an ejaculatory orgasm?
Anonymous
Friday, December 30, 2016
Thanks. Fortunately we’re fairly well practiced and I used to regularly milk my partner before we began practicing semen retention last year.
I wondered how you felt it would fit into the ejaculation schedule? A good prostate milking does allow him to expel a lot of semen (more than when he masturbates himself) but because it’s not the same ejaculatory orgasm, he remains in the pre-climax state, albeit with the internal aching soothed from draining the fluid. So would you say it’s something to do on E-day or should it be done more regularly during normal retention days?
Anonymous
Friday, December 30, 2016
I was wondering where you would see prostate milking featuring in the schedule? Fortunately we’re quite well practiced at milking my partner’s prostate. Would it occur on E-Day as his routine ejaculation or during the normal retention and stimulation routine, bearing in mind that although much semen is expelled this way, he remains in the pre-climax state and doesnt experience a traditional ejaculatory orgasm. Thanks.
This is one of a few blogs that were published by Yoga Girl at her website at http://flr101.blogspot.com. This site is now offline but all credit goes to her.
