I think I’m a fairly typical woman in many respects. I have a science and medical background. My husband and I have been married over ten years. All pretty good years I might add, but this last year has probably been the most passionate to say the least. I’m also the breadwinner in the house. My income is quite lucrative which allows me the luxury of having a house husband. I’m also a Yoga and Qigong practitioner.
Although we’ve always had a great marriage, about a year ago we embarked on the Yoga/Qigong practice of semen retention. Simply put, semen retention is when the male has sexual intercourse, and refrains from ejaculation in order preserve Jing and Qi not to mention a myriad of health benefits. And as a female that dabbled with a FLR in the past, this took on a new meaning which maybe the Tao masters didn’t envision. Many couples are attracted to a FLR, but as a result of my studies, I’m realizing that the principles of a FLR reside in some of these traditions. The principle of semen retention certainly reside in the tantra, but I think what we’re doing is more baby tantra with a FLR twist. I’m not a reiki master or anything like that, and my husband doesn’t practice. I take truth where I find it, and I thought this might resonate with some other women.
Practicing semen retention has certainly brought a new change in my husbands biology. Our marriage has become more passionate, blissful, and joyful than ever. He agreed to participate thinking it might be fun to try for a little while. Well, it’s been close to a year. I don’t think he saw that coming. He didn’t know the last time he masturbated was the last time period. After almost a year of practice, I believe that semen retention is the foundation of a blissful joyful marriage.
Like most men, my husband lacked the strength to refrain from release in the heat of the moment, and it was obvious some intervention was needed. I think most women will have to be strong for their husband in this regard. Using some spiritual traditions and some scientific research (see my next article) I devised an ejaculation schedule that serves the relationship best. I decided on one ejaculation every 5-7 days, preferably 7 if he’s holding up well emotionally. Thanks to the application of consequences for unauthorized ejaculation which is really a topic for another blog entry, he has learned restraint and waits for me to give him the release command which once given produces a large amount of ejaculate immediately every time. It would be great if the male only ejaculated for procreation, but the truth is that after riding him daily for 5-7 days for extended periods in his pre-climax state (the moment just before ejaculation), he’s more than a little anxious, and I’m kind of eager to watch his release. It’s a special day all around.
Any woman that has removed ejaculation from their husband’s life knows how much his personality can be adjusted. He can go from aggressive, lazy and moody with frequent ejaculation to agreeable, compliant, and loving, waiting to serve my every whim when there is very infrequent release. Just adjust the dial to your liking. It’s all the same guy you fell in love with, just different versions. It’s truly transforming how much it can bring a couple closer together.
For the first nine years of our marriage, before I made these changes, he was releasing way before I was even getting warmed up. That was throwing us out of balance and denying me as a woman my true nature of being multi orgasmic which in turn denied him my Qi energy. Practiced in this way, the whole sex act is unnatural and it keeps both parties mired in the mud. I didn’t truly awaken down there until he started practicing semen retention and developed his stamina. Now that he’s trained, retaining his semen, and maintaining sustained thrusting, I typically enjoy at least nine orgasms in intercourse and about 50-100 orgasms before he has his special day. It’s so much more intense having intercourse with a man that’s writhing on the brink in excruciating pleasure beneath me.
There are some things you might have to deal with at first in this process. As he’s not used to retaining, he might have blue balls, but that will go away in time. His body will just reabsorb his semen. I can ride him every day for five days, put his Lingam (phallus) away in my purse after each use without release and no more cases of blue balls. It’s just something to be aware of. He will complain about it. I’m really starting to see semen retention as his rite of passage to becoming a man. I marvel at how it’s changed his biology to reveal the true man that he is inside. The man that’s happy to serve cleaning the kitchen, and the lover that’s always ready with a steel hard Lingam to pump me to 18 orgasms, and then ask if he can provide me with 9 more. Another fringe benefit is that he actually measures bigger practicing semen retention for close to a year. It’s probably due to just heightened constant arousal. He also has the penis of a 16 year old having erections on and off throughout the day.
Things are not absolutely perfect. He has gone through a couple of periods where he wanted to go back to the way things were before he was retaining as he misses masturbation. At that point I really needed to consider how much I really wanted this new way. Did I want to just go back to just a good marriage or stay in the incredible passionate marriage that I have now? The answer was obvious. It’s also incredible for him as well which he freely admits. His main complaint is transitioning without ejaculation to other activities after our intercourse sessions. Deep inside he knows he needs this not only because of the health benefits, but because even though he has no ejaculation except for about four times a month, his pleasure is more intense than ever except for that last five seconds at the end, and it’s time to put it away, waiting for tomorrows session. But on the whole I’m very pleased with the results over the past year.
He’s still the same guy I married, plus so much more. It’s the principle of semen retention that decided this marriage is now a FLR. The only rule we have is the ejaculation schedule with severe consequences for unauthorized spills. Everything flows from that, from his submissive giving nature to my dominance. I really think women are missing out on so much if they are not in a relationship like this with a semen retaining male. The world would be a different place if this was the norm. Once his balls are in your purse where he wants them to be, your relationship will transcend. I don’t know why, but men crave this command structure, and we women aren’t always good at providing it. But if we master it, the rewards are beyond measure. I hope blogs like this are the beginning of a change in our culture. I really only can say what works for us. I hope our experience has been useful for some. We’ve tried a FLR in the past but it just fizzled with time. I enjoyed it, but I guess it didn’t resonate with me. This time it’s so important to me on so many levels, and gels with spiritual traditions of the past. I see it as central to how I as a woman will transcend in my spiritual practice. ~Namaste
Thanks to my hubby for help with the website ….and the orgasms!
DISCLAIMER: This blog depicts the loving consensual agreed upon relationship between the author and her husband. Every relationship should be safe, sane and consensual. Anything else is illegal. This blog is not meant to substitute for your personal due diligence and is not to be taken as medical advice.
Saturday, July 30, 2016
Hi Yoga Girl, I am learning a lot from and really excited by your blog. I am an bi-gender male-bodied person who identifies in the middle range between female and male. As I’ve gotten older I’ve gotten more and more disenchanted with and opposed to patriarchy and all forms of male supremacy. Men have made such a mess of the world, and while there have been good things they’ve contributed as well, there are so many signs that their rule is in its last stages. I think female leadership of the family and society is not the only good for women but also is the best and only way to end patriarchy. Now, you have shown me how it is also good for males. The semen retention way is the best way to reconcile the two sexes.
A personal note: I just adore your confidence and the way you rule your household and the way your husband does the housework and cedes to you all the privileges the old patriarchal male used to have–and all this simply through following his sexual urges as shaped by semen retention. This is the best meaning of dominant-submissive, leader-follower as the template for female-male relationships. To me, your world is perfect world.
One question. How does your view of the family extend out into the rest of the world, especially because you say that you and most women prefer alpha males. If the alpha male is submissive only to his own wife or mate, then what happens in the work world? Wouldn’t it be good for his attitude toward you to carry over to all women?
Monday, August 01, 2016
Thanks, L. Glad you’re enjoying the blog. I do think there’s n elegance in it. It’s not complex. I feel my leadership is an outgrowth of his semen retention and his ejaculation schedule. I’m responding to the changes in his biology as the Tao reveals to him his nature.
“How does your view of the family extend out into the rest of the world, especially because you say that you and most women prefer alpha males. If the alpha male is submissive only to his own wife or mate, then what happens in the work world? Wouldn’t it be good for his attitude toward you to carry over to all women?”
In my discussion with, Joey, I kind of redefined that as I like passionate males, and that passion can cross over to Alpha/dominate traits. So, even though my alpha husband’s biology is changing to more of a beta personality, he is very passionate in the bedroom and can sometimes take me in an Alpha way.
As far as his dynamic with other women, I think women will respond according to his behavior. If the male is submissive, that will bring leadership qualities out of the women that surround him, and an Alpha female boss would certainly appreciate those qualities in a male. I think more males are dealing with this dynamic as society changes. We’re certainly dealing with it in this election. My husband has a very strong positive response toward Hillary. And if he had a female boss, I think he would prefer it to a male authority, and that would be due to semen retention I think.
Thursday, August 18, 2016
hallo, would you like to explain how the “He agreed to participate thinking it might be fun to try for a little while” became a full year?
Thursday, August 18, 2016
I thought it was apparent from the line before it.
“Our marriage has become more passionate, blissful, and joyful than ever.”
Monday, October 10, 2016
Hi,do you mean you prefer beta, submissive male that obeys you, but passionate in bed
Monday, October 10, 2016
I prefer a man to practice semen retention, follow my ejaculation schedule and embrace his true nature that flows from that.
Saturday, November 19, 2016
Great blog full of practical information, thank you!
Given your medical/science background, do you have any health concerns regarding long-term retention? My wife’s previous schedule was a monthly ejaculation. We are gradually working on increasing the length between ejaculations to once or twice a year which I am in complete agreement with.
Are you aware of any health risks with such a long term schedule? I’m currently at almost three months and feel great so far. Thank you for your consideration.
Saturday, November 19, 2016
My short answer is I don’t know. There is no consensus in the medical community on it. That is something you will have to research for yourself. There just aren’t enough or any studies on large groups of males that ejaculate that infrequently. I know my husband couldn’t do it. He would probably have a nervous breakdown if I made him wait that long.
I think it might effect your libido if you go that long as well as your erections, but again I don’t know. You don’t want the libido of a celibate priest where things might just shut down. Eventually, your body will just release the semen on its own with nocturnal emissions. You may be doing that already. In that case, you don’t get to enjoy it. You don’t want to defeat your sex drive, you want to increase it. Hopefully your wife is enjoying your increased drive and better erections.
You might want to check out the No Fap community where you’ll find many men doing the same thing. Just do a google & youtube search.
This is one of a few blogs that were published by Yoga Girl at her website at http://flr101.blogspot.com. This site is now offline but all credit goes to her.