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FLR101: His week off, an important decision

We recently finished a period where I extended his ejaculation schedule to 14 days.  During that time I applied intense pre-climax stimulation to him during those 14 days.  There was a lot of begging, whining and crying to go back to the way things were during these highly intense intercourse sessions without ejaculation.  I decided to give him a week off after the 14 day period.  I told him during that week, he could masturbate to orgasm or have sex with me with him orgasming as often as he wished, but at the end of the week he would need to make a decision as to what his life will be with me.

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The results were very interesting.  During that week, he masturbated only once.  He had standard sex with me where he orgasmed as he chose only once.  Both experiences were very sub par for him and kind of frustrating.  He thought it would have been much better than it was.  At the end of the week, he decided /wanted/craved to come back and submit to semen retention, the ejaculation schedule and consequences for unauthorized ejaculation.  The pleasure he now derives from our method of intercourse is a state of hyper pleasure where everything else pales in comparison.  He’s been so well trained in this method, I really wonder if he would be able to perform standard sex if I found him a normal pretty girl or even get a good erection for her.  He now requires a particular set of circumstances to perform.  If a normal woman tried to have intercourse with him, she would need to read my instruction manual to even get him started.  His erection during our standard sex session was only adequate for penetration, hardly adequate to reach my A-Spot in the cervix area and provided little pleasure for me.

I’ve never been concerned about my husband cheating on me, but after what I experienced with him during his week off, I really don’t see him performing without the appropriate circumstances.  I’m not saying it’s impossible for him to have sex in a normal fashion with a pretty girl that just wants to get laid, but it would be highly unlikely and difficult for him.  Once you have your husband trained and broken in with this method, I think standard sex will be very disappointing for him no matter how much he says he wants to just ejaculate whenever he pleases.

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I think he’s effectively been castrated except for when I need his penis for my purposes.   He’s no longer compelled to masturbate, and his ejaculation is conditioned to the sound of my voice issuing the release command.  His erections are unbelievable when submitting to a female authority.  Many men can have difficulty sustaining an erection during standard intercourse, but once my husband is at full mast, his penis stays locked in that 100% erect state for the duration of our lengthy session and for some time even after our session is over.

So, can your husband do this?  What’s best for him?  For my husband, it was either the hell of standard sex which was really pitiful compared to to our semen retention sex or the torture of intense intercourse and ecstasy of semen retention sex without ejaculation.  In the end he says standard sex with ejaculation when he chooses is a D grade, and semen retention sex is an A+ grade except for the end without ejaculation which he gives an F grade, but that brief ejaculation is such a small part of the experience compared to giving me 18 orgasms.  He’s trading his one orgasm to have me orgasm 18 times on his face. If your husband chooses this road, your orgasm will be his orgasm.  He will be in service which is the higher calling than his self indulgent ejaculation.  It’s my husband’s excruciating pleasure, screaming, whining, crying, begging that drives me to an intense whole body orgasm as I’m flooded with his energy that passes to me that I then share with him as I ride his face in ecstasy 8 -18 more times and finally drown out his cries as he receives me at the end of our session.  In the end, he’s traded 1-2 minutes of substandard thrusting with 10 seconds of pleasure for 20-30 minutes of excruciating pleasure almost daily.  Some day, maybe years from now, during one of our sessions he may even experience an orgasm without ejaculation like the masters.

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Despite his experience with his week off, I’m still holding off on having him hand over complete control over his ejaculation to me in an official ceremony of lifetime commitment.  I still consider this a trial period.  It’s a very huge decision for him, and once it’s done, it’s done.  He will be effectively castrated except when I require it for my service, and it will be drained per the schedule I set for it accepting it without question, and unauthorized spills will be punished severely as they are now, but there will be no turning back.  This commitment won’t be taken lightly.  He’s made that pledge for our trial period, but I think it gives him peace of mind that there might be a way out.  I can see obviously that there is no way but this way.  His penis doesn’t function without the three pillars of semen retention, ejaculation schedule, and consequences for unauthorized ejaculation, but he needs to come to that conclusion as well.  After the ceremony this way of life will be a condition to be in a relationship with me.  He will leave his relationship with the daughter of Eve behind, and he will enter into a passionate commitment with a daughter of Lilith.

I’m glad he had his week off so he could be reminded of where we were, and how good he has it now.  We’re still learning and refining our method, but I think the basic nuts and bolts of it are there for people to begin their new life of intimacy together and make their own discoveries.  It’s been an exciting journey.  We’ve come such a long way in a year.

~Namaste

Thanks to my hubby for help with the website …and the orgasms!

DISCLAIMER: This blog depicts the loving consensual agreed upon relationship between the author and her husband.  Every relationship should be safe, sane and consensual.  Anything else is illegal. This blog is not meant to substitute for your personal due diligence and is not to be taken as medical advice.


35 comments:

Yoga Girl

Saturday, October 15, 2016
If you’ve applied the 3 principles of semen retention, ejaculation schedule and consequences for unauthorized ejaculation in your relationship, I would love to hear your experience. I would like to add a third menu button called “Testimonials” at the top of the page so that I could add other people’s experiences in one location. it would be good for couples to learn from other couples. Also, if you’re a single male that practices semen retention, I think your experience would be interesting to add as well if your sexually active. To submit your comment, just reply to this thread with the word Testimonial at the beginning so I know it’s meant to be shared in the testimonial section of this blog. I’ll add them when I get enough to justify a testimonial section. Thanks!

Yoga Girl

Thursday, October 20, 2016
If you submit, I’d like to keep the length reasonable like a paragraph or two so the formatting is right for the page.

Thanks!

Awedbymywoman

Saturday, October 22, 2016
Just so you know, I am planning on writing a testimonial for you. I just haven’t been able to get to it yet. Hopefully I can write one this week sometime.

Anonymous

Sunday, October 16, 2016
“Effectively been castrated except when I need his penis for my purposes.”

That is a terrifying statement.

He should go on a solo vacation for awhile and think about what he’s being asked to do so he can feel the weight of it without your presence.

Yoga Girl

Monday, October 17, 2016
I think it’s terrifying only to to a frequent freely ejaculating male that practices no self discipline but ejaculates during every intercourse session. A male that practices self discipline through semen retention exist on a different plateau than the self indulgent male centered around himself and his own pleasure. A semen retaining male is in much greater service, and his reward is much greater than the self indulgent free ejaculating male’s reward will ever be. It would be like comparing the high of smoking a cigarette to doing heroine except that semen retention is not destructive, but spiritually and physically beneficial.

Anonymous

Monday, October 17, 2016
With all due respect, the difference is that you are centered around yourself and your pleasure with the result that he is not.

And, I disagree that the concept of ruining your sexuality except for your current partner’s on demand needs is something that should only be of concern to a frequently freely ejaculating male. Many things can happen to end a relationship, and permanently compromising your sexual abilities should be of concern to all men.

It is by definition “destructive” to be castrated for all purposes except when your current partner “needs” your penis for her purposes.

Yoga Girl

Monday, October 17, 2016
“With all due respect, the difference is that you are centered around yourself and your pleasure with the result that he is not. “

Obviously, you’ve missed the point. The reason my husband does this is because his pleasure has been increased beyond measure. We were centered around his needs for years with no result. It’s only when the sex is centered around the female’s pleasure that both partners benefit. Neither one us wants anything to do with standard sex anymore. It’s like comparing eating out of a garbage can compared to fine dining.

“And, I disagree that the concept of ruining your sexuality except for your current partner’s on demand needs is something that should only be of concern to a frequently freely ejaculating male. Many things can happen to end a relationship, and permanently compromising your sexual abilities should be of concern to all men.”

My husband’s abilities have been expanded through semen retention. His pleasure is greater.

“It is by definition “destructive” to be castrated for all purposes except when your current partner “needs” your penis for her purposes.”

My husband’s penis is for my use. He has intercourse almost daily, and he ejaculates on average once a week. He’s lucky that I allow that. In the future, it may be restricted even more. Once a week seems frequent to me. That’s 52 times a year which is more than generous.

AnonymousTuesday, October 18, 2016
“The reason my husband does this is because his pleasure has been increased beyond measure.”

Then, it seems like it would be a no-brainer for him to cede full control to you.

It seems risky to force him into a decision where his only recourse if he later changes his mind is divorce. It also suggests that your sexual gratification matters to you more than he does, as does the denigrating and dismissive way you talk about him in general, i.e. “My husband’s penis is for my use,” “He’s lucky that I allow that,” etc.

Yoga Girl

Tuesday, October 18, 2016
“Then, it seems like it would be a no-brainer for him to cede full control to you.”

You really are a simple man. I will let him know when the time is right. He already knows what the right decision is.

“It seems risky to force him into a decision where his only recourse if he later changes his mind is divorce.”

I’m not much interested in a dead marriage. If something is dead, what to people usually do with dead things? They bury them and move on. Love is always conditional.

“It also suggests that your sexual gratification matters to you more than he does, as does the denigrating and dismissive way you talk about him in general, i.e. “My husband’s penis is for my use,” “He’s lucky that I allow that,” etc.”

My sexual gratification is tied to his. They are inseparable. My orgasm is his orgasm, and he gets 9-18 of them almost everyday. I will use my husband as I see fit. I will shorten or lengthen his leash as I please …or let him run free. It’s at my discretion. I may not fully understand the nature of man, but I 100% fully understand the nature of my man. Don’t presume to enlighten me about my relationship.

I’m-Hers

Sunday, October 16, 2016
Your description of your partners week sounds familiar. After learning to be the one who provides the pleasure for his mistress, traditional sex really does take a back seat to intercourse in which orgasm is denied. Every male reading this knows this is true. They experience that peak lasting a few seconds and then it’s over. Being made to endure an almost climax several times is so much more.

The other aspect to submissive/dominant sex is the mental change that takes place. I cannot speak for the woman but hearing her cum, knowing that is was me that allowed that to happen adds another component to a couples intimacy. And isn’t that what intercourse is all about, being as close as potentially possible? Not only are there the physical feelings that make sex so nice but there is the emotional bonding that is even more special.

I’d be interested in hearing more about the discussion that led to the trial period the two of you are currently in. What were the parameters that you set down that had to be followed? How long was the period? What were the decisions to me made/discussed at the end of that period? And what if he chose to not continue? Love your writing!

Yoga Girl

Monday, October 17, 2016
There wasn’t much of a discussion. I was reading about it from a Qigong master, and I wanted to try it. I felt certain he would respond to it. The difference this time was that it resonated with me, and I wanted it. I don’t think this will work if it doesn’t come from the woman, IMO. The woman needs to see the import of it. They need to wrap their brain around it. Once they do that, they will become a daughter of Lilith and grind Eve beneath their heel …that is if she wants a passionate intimate relationship with her husband.

During sex on Sunday (about a year ago), I told him he wasn’t ejaculating until Tuesday. I could tell from the way his penis responded, there was no need for discussion. The only parameters there were that he would follow the ejaculation schedule with daily intercourse. Everything else flows from that. The trial period just kept extending itself. You’d have to ask a heroine addict how long their trial period was. You just keep doing it. At the end of every ejaculation cycle which I guess is a trial period, the choice is between going back to substandard sex or continue with ecstasy.

If he chose to not continue, it would be a big thing. I don’t know if it would lead to divorce, but he knows it would substantially downgrade the quality of our relationship, and it would put us on the same path of every other couple that has been married for 10+ years which for many leads to divorce or a dead marriage. Our marriage at ten years has the passion of a couple that has just met. Our intercourse sessions are very intimate. I like that, and I wouldn’t give it up easily.

Anonymous

Sunday, October 16, 2016
Yoga Girl: I don’t want to preempt your answer, which I am looking forward to reading and learning from. But, here’s my own answer to the male fear of the word castration. My answer comes from a different angle, but ends in the same place.

From my understanding, in sexuality and gender there is no such thing as the kind of equality that there is when they think of political rights. There is only difference, and such difference if we consult psychoanalysis is asymmetrical. One sex must be privileged, which is to say that it controls the phallus and has the power to construct the reality in which it and the other sex reside. It has the voice and the gaze, it is the subject and action taker, and it takes and accumulates the sacrifices of the other, including sacrificing for one’s pleasure. The other gender is the passive object of reality created by the sex with the voice and gaze; it sacrifices for the gender that is the subject. Because it lack the phallus, it is defined by its lack.

There can be no equality between women and males, and deep down neither gender wants it. Equality is not sexy; it can’t generate desire. The reason men don’t want to give up male supremacy or patriarchal ego is that they see no way other way to retain their power and sexual desire. Equality is instinctively feels like loss, a descent into nothingness or pure lack. For women of previous generations who are moving out of lack, equality was an aspiration, but as long as their psychological structure remained, the “Eve” one, their desire remains that of their men.

In short, the only way to rid the world of patriarchy is to pass through the looking glass into matriarchy. That is what castration means. It doesn’t mean the physical severing of one’s testicles. It means that males are no longer men (independent). They are the dependent consorts of women, available for sexual service and to make women’s lives easier. Their own pleasure doesn’t enter into the equation, except insofar as it derives from the woman’s. So the choice for men is between the old patriarchal ego and the new castrated ego in which males are defined by their lack; and for women it is between woman as man’s helpmate and woman as man’s authority figure—from Eve to Lilith, with her own robust sexuality as the new standard for human sexuality.

There is always fear when one goes into the unknown. But, as those males who have made the journey can attest, being castrated in this sense is an experience of immense pleasure and satisfaction. Of course, there is another reason to pass through the looking glass. As our planet’s ecological crisis and the candidacy of Donald Trump makes obvious, patriarchy is no longer viable; nor is it an attractive construct for most younger males. It is a caricature of its once grand self. Giving up male power and voice to a woman who is willing to take that power and voice is the only alternative as I see it. There is no equality, only difference. In the future, the castrating woman will be the most desirable one.

L

Yoga Girl

Monday, October 17, 2016
Many good points here. It’s easy to see were entering a new age. I look at Donald Trump, and can hardly believe my eyes. How could their be anymore of a one dimensional cartoon caricature of the archetypal Adam? The fact that the first woman president was faced with this primordial creature to defeat before taking office almost seems biblical. If Joseph Campbell were still alive, he would have a field day with the symbolism of it all. And the fact that that 30% of women support him speaks volumes about the struggle between Eve and Lilith which I plan plan to write about in a later chapter.

Awedbymywoman

Saturday, November 12, 2016
I’m guessing you were disappointed by the election results, and I think most of us are with you in one form or another. I’m certainly no DT fan.

However, it’s been a while since we’ve heard from you, and I just want to let you know we all need your ideas who read your blog. Perhaps you need to tell us all how it needs to be even more forcefully now that I imagine you’re rightly annoyed. Us men seeking to be submissive to our women with our cocks and orgasms need feminine wisdom more now than ever.

Yoga Girl

Saturday, November 12, 2016
I do have an article coming up that relates to the 42% of women that voted Trump. I’ll explore some of the differences between the daughters of Lilith and the daughters of Eve, and why if a woman ever does become president of this country, it will be in spite of women not because of them.

Awedbymywoman

Monday, October 17, 2016
I think he certainly has an important decision before him. However, it seems to be pretty obvious what he’ll choose, and I love the idea that you want to have some sort of ceremony to go with it. What kind of ceremony were you thinking of?

My wife and I are practicing many of the things you’ve mentioned in your posts, like semen retention and the ejaculation schedule. However, it’s been obvious to me that we just aren’t on the same level. Our intercourse without ejaculation is intense, but doesn’t bond me to her to the extent that yours does. My wife cannot respond orgasmically as easily as you can. I find I have to often stop my thrusting to stop from going over the edge. I almost never ejaculate without her permission anymore, but I find it very difficult to curb ALL masturbation, and that’s something we haven’t been able to totally solve. We have had some negative consequences for unauthorized self-touching, but I don’t think my wife has the stomach to do something that would be severe enough to really stop it. I shudder to think what that something would have to be.

So it seems to me that the three biggest obstacles have been my own lack of self-control (though it has improved and my wife HAS helped with this), my wife’s inability to be as sexually responsive as we’d both like (though she is getting better) and my wife’s hesitance to perhaps be as harsh and strict as maybe she needs to be (though she hasn’t been a pushover). It also then seems to me that these are all matters of DEGREE, compared to you and your husband.

I’d be lying if I said we weren’t envious of the two of you, to a degree. We both WANT to be where the two of you are; and it’s true that my wife and I have already come much farther because we’ve been implementing many of things you mention.

So based on where we’re at now, how do we take our marriage and sex-life to the next level?

Yoga Girl

Monday, October 17, 2016
It sounds like where you’re at is a very good place as a couple. You want your wife to take more from you than maybe she wants to take, but I think that’s natural. Every couple can benefit from regular companion inventories. We try to have one weekly. This should be a time where you both share your wants and needs without judgement. It’s a fine line between sharing and topping from the bottom, but I really want to know what my husbands needs and wants are. I may not be interested in going there, but it helps me to know that there is no limit to how much I could take. It seems to be a males natural state that he would let everything be taken from him down to his last shred of dignity, but the universe has endowed women with common sense and judgement to take only what is required. Your wife has one foot in world of Eve and one foot in the world of Lilith. Let her set the pace as she experiences your natural state. I think it can a disappointment to a male when the wife is unwilling to totally crush him without mercy because women naturally are compassionate and have mercy. I’m sure you and your wife through your companion inventories can find the proper solution to your masturbation habit to fully extinguish it.

Awedbymywoman

Monday, October 17, 2016
What part does my wife’s inability to orgasm through intercourse play in all this? I’ve always wanted to be energized to give her pleasure in this way, and for this to feed my own self-control. It just seems to be a missing component. You and I have already discussed how for us to work on that specifically, but what do we do in the meantime?

Yoga Girl

Tuesday, October 18, 2016
Giving her pleasure to feed your self control. I’m not sure that should be connected to your masturbation problem. You should find a safe averse stimulus that you want to avoid that would compel you not to masturbate. This will have to be discussion between you and your wife. It’s hard to give specific counseling. I think the best I can do is share our experience and hope that it will give couples some ideas to explore the dynamic within their relationship.

Awedbymywoman

Tuesday, October 18, 2016
You’re partially right, that my self-control issues are separate. But a man and woman’s positive energies DO feed into one another, as you seem to testify often. I do need to exercise self-control, but if that’s all it is, then it’s all about me. SELF-control: so what do I need my wife for? Haven’t you said that men NEED their woman to show them the light through semen-retention discipline? She can’t MAKE him do this, but together they can, and she certainly helps him.

But since indeed you are not a counselor, I’ll just state that part of my issue is wanting, perhaps too strongly, my wife to be more sexually responsive. It’s true I need to learn patience, and in the meantime be content with where she is at. Yet, I believe we should also seek to reach higher as man and wife.

Maybe I’m just trying to say you should be grateful that you are more in tune with your own body so you can pursue your own pleasure in this way, with your husband. The level of your libido is clearly much higher than the average woman, I think it’s safe to say. I think you should recognize how important that fact is to assisting you both. It’s not everything, but it’s an important cog in your wheel. A very high libido husband who struggles with self-control (that’s me), coupled with a low-libido wife who struggles with being sexually responsive creates some extra challenges.

Your husband clearly adores you, one reason being that you’ve taken such an active role in helping him transcend with you higher, even if there are some things that are difficult for him. I’m glad you’re are both able to go so far, it does give people like us hope, who are at least inferior in our sexual skills. I’m glad you do, just trying to give some perspective.

Awedbymywoman

Tuesday, October 18, 2016
Also, you never answered my question about the ceremony you were thinking about having. I am genuinely curious! 🙂

Yoga Girl

Tuesday, October 18, 2016
“I do need to exercise self-control, but if that’s all it is, then it’s all about me. SELF-control: so what do I need my wife for?”

Your telling me that you and your wife can’t think of one non-contact averse stimulus that would control your habit? The threat of a early bedtime alone would work on my husband. The threat of a $10 a week allowance would work on my husband. You could read about token economies that are used to influence behavior and apply that to appropriate behavior. But maybe you’re saying the aversive stimulus that you want is the one she’s not willing to give. You want her to beat you to deter masturbating. If it were me, trust me, you wouldn’t want it. Your wife is still 80% a daughter of Eve, but she’s trying. The right answer for her is whatever she wants it to be. Companion inventories are a great tool and the right time for you to communicate how much you need to be ground under her feet, to have your last shred of dignity removed. Even though many men may have these feelings, they may be to ashamed to vocalize them to their wives afraid their wives will judge them and reject them so they keep up the facade. The companion inventory should be set up where feelings can be expressed without judgement. I think many wives would like to know their husbands innermost secret fantasies. You need to access that for yourself.

Haven’t you said that men NEED their woman to show them the light through semen-retention discipline?

I believe I’ve said my husband practices semen retention and as his nature is revealed to him, I respond to that and give him what he needs, and I’m happy to do it. Obviously, you want your wife to to take more than she’s willing to take.

“The level of your libido is clearly much higher than the average woman,”

That evolved with time and lots of yoga. In the beginning I was very much a shut down daughter of Eve submitting to my husband in all things letting him use my body like I was a sex doll for his pleasure as frequently as he wished, then not understanding why I wasn’t a stimulus for him anymore. What an idiot I was. Was sex good then? It was good, sometimes it was just okay. Sometimes I was neutral about it. I peeled back the layers of the onion over time. PATIENCE. You don’t think she feels this pressure? MY husband waited years for this evolotion. Then one day when our relationship was just fine. Really, everything was great. I came to him and said I want to try this and see if it will work. It was out of the blue, he didn’t even see it coming. Now, it’s huge part of our lives if not the centerpiece.

Yoga Girl

Tuesday, October 18, 2016
I wanted to tag this at the end of the last response above:

That’s why I wrote this blog. I was hoping women could read it and come to some conclusions much faster than I did.

“Also, you never answered my question about the ceremony you were thinking about having. I am genuinely curious! :)”

I’ll write about in a blog entry when the day comes. I need to stop stealing my own thunder by getting into things in the comments section that I plan to write about. Plus I’m still thinking about it. 🙂

Awedbymywoman

Tuesday, October 18, 2016
I apologize if my response was combative, as that wasn’t really my intention. I agree with you for the most part, and my disagreement is primarily about different details.

Overall, I really am just trying to give you a different view from my wife and I’s perspective. She is a very different person than you, and frankly always will be.

We have been down the road of adverse punishments, and many of them were of the non-contact type. We’ve found that for the most part they were ineffective or caused greater problems, such as distancing us further. The more distance there was between us, the worse my own self-control lapsed.

But I’m definitely not saying that my wife and I “can’t think of one non-contact averse stimulus that would control [my] habit?” Sometimes they helped. But circumstances in life make it so that sadly there are always things that are outside of our control, namely, her control. And these are things that cannot be easily fixed. Truly, I could write a book about the things we are doing, all the things we have done, and things we may be willing to try. I’ve just given you the tip of the iceberg.

My wife knows me better than anyone else. So ultimately, it’s because she loves me dearly that she’s been willing to go down this road. She done well, and she’s getting better at it. I’m sure in some ways, she will be more strict with me in time. I want to love her just as dearly, and all these things she’s done for me have indeed bound me to her more tightly.

Discipline of a grown man is something that just not every woman has the stomach for. Her and I both believe in the need for discipline in life, but it doesn’t fix everything. It may stop a certain behavior, but it fails to address the underlying reason for that behavior, so discipline has its limits. She does everything that she believes will help, I can’t fault her for that.

Yoga Girl

Wednesday, October 19, 2016
I think you guys will do fine. I can tell you you love your wife a great deal.

Awedbymywoman

Thursday, October 20, 2016
Thank you, but I must say I am also constantly impressed by HER love for me. To me, that’s what marriage is all about. But incorporating aspects of an FLR and semen-retention into marriage? Well, that’s pretty cool too 🙂

Sissy and His Wife

Monday, October 17, 2016
My wife restricts ejaculation to about every two weeks. I routine get erections but she always tells me to get soft and put my hard penis back in panties. She has one rule when I do ejaculate. I have to eat it all.

Yoga Girl

Monday, October 17, 2016
I’m aiming this blog at women, and I’d like to address this from a normal women’s perspective. You may find this male’s response off putting as a woman and think “I don’t want my husband to turn into this”. But you should look at it as you can define your husband as you wish. The programming is in them whether you want it to be or not. This woman has chosen to strip her husband of all his masculinity. This is something she has chosen for her husband, and I don’t judge her at all for it. I’m just pointing out that a FLR is not defined this way. You will define it. I define my husband’s role through semen retention as a passionate, loving supportive husband, and we are nearly equals most of the time, and other times I will take it much further. As you adjust his ejaculation schedule and apply daily vaginal stimulation, he will be as you wish him to be most of the time and probably be hoping you will take even more.

Anonymous

Saturday, October 22, 2016
I also think ejaculation once a week is too much, it should be restricted

Lingering Need

Tuesday, November 08, 2016
I’m a bit late to the party, but… “He’s trading his one orgasm to have me orgasm 18 times … your orgasm will be his orgasm. He will be in service which is the higher calling than his self indulgent ejaculation. “

That higher calling extends beyond the sexuality as regards energy and concentration available for other pursuits in his life.

“…and I wanted it. I don’t think this will work if it doesn’t come from the woman …to wrap (her) brain around it … become a daughter of Lilith and grind Eve beneath their heel …that is if she wants a passionate intimate relationship with her husband.”

aye; and there’s the rub (especially for the uncoupled male)

“…if you’re a single male that practices semen retention…”
It’s difficult. Absent a positive focus and/or some sort of directed aversion.

I’ve come to this from other more physiological needs but the practices and regimen as you so eloguently and alluringly present them seem the perfect convergence of spirit and heart and body.

Thank you for sharing and doing it so wel.

Yoga Girl

Tuesday, November 08, 2016
Thanks for reading.

“…if you’re a single male that practices semen retention…”
It’s difficult. Absent a positive focus and/or some sort of directed aversion.

I agree, If your a single male without access to a female it’s difficult to make semen retention work because of the lack of daily vaginal stimulation and just edging himself isn’t the same energy. I know if I just use my hands on my husband, he can get blue balls where using my vagina, blue balls doesn’t happen. I think it might have to do with the flow of energy from him to me. I think just using hands may create an energy blockage instead of a flow. It may be best for the single male to just masturbate and have a release in moderation. I think a marriage is two halves of a whole uniting.

Anonymous

Wednesday, November 16, 2016
Two weeks of retention period is exactly as master Sun Su-mo advice.Do you plan to expand ejaculation schedules for your husband or remain on two weeks.If man is well trained he can retain more without ejaculation and with time become real master.It’s wife’s duty to help him with this task.

Yoga Girl

Wednesday, November 16, 2016
I don’t believe in a rigid system for us. I think our bodies are always changing depending on stress, diet, and even the season. So I will likely do 2 weeks at sometimes, but in the spring I might decide he is able to have a shorter interval. I would prefer to listen to my own intuition and inner guidance on this matter.

Proud Servant

Friday, December 02, 2016
This post is such a wonderful answer to your critics, who believe you are abusing your husband. You gave your husband a week off, free rein to indulge in sex the old way, on his own or with you, with no consequences whatsoever. He barely bothered to exercise his freedom, and when he did he had decidedly inferior experiences (D grade, he said). And at the end of the week and craved to return to submission to you and your program.

It is abundantly clear to me that his life is much improved under your tutelage and control. My congratulations to you both.

Yoga Girl

Friday, December 02, 2016
Thank you. It’s a conflict for him. He dearly wants to ejaculate, but his penis responds with the best erections to retention and the schedule. So, no matter what comes out of his mouth, I have to go with the true lie detector that’s throbbing and staring me in the face. He simply doesn’t do as well as a free ejaculator.

This is one of a few blogs that were published by Yoga Girl at her website at http://flr101.blogspot.com. This site is now offline but all credit goes to her. 

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