Those of you that have been following along have seen that I am genuinely not interested in the fetish side of things. I am really just looking to use the male sex drive as a tool to increase the happiness for both my boyfriend and myself. That said, I always felt like the whole “cum eating” thing was from the fetish side of the whole femdom spectrum. With that statement, you can probably guess where today’s blog post will be heading.
Let’s start with the fact that I don’t find my man eating his own ejaculate the least bit sexy or arousing. As I go down this rabbit hole, I keep coming up with blogs and sites where the woman makes the man eat his own semen as a punishment or as a showing of submission to the woman. I figured I’d give it a go and see how he responded to broaching the topic. I asked if he had ever tasted his own cum and he responded that he had smelled it a couple times and touched it to his lips once or twice but never more than that. I asked him his thoughts on tasting more of it and he reluctantly said that he would try it if I wanted him to. He didn’t seem overly excited about the prospect but didn’t seem to hate the idea either.
I have of course tasted my share of semen and while I don’t hate it, I do find that swallowing is typically easier than finding a suitable place to spit it. While guys tend to find it sexy or arousing, swallowing is simply more convenient than the chore of finding a place to dispose of it. Some guys have more volume, consistency, taste but none of them have been remotely delicious and I don’t anticipate that many of you find it to be. For that reason, I feel like the symbolism of eating a man’s seed is the reason for it’s taboo and perhaps what men enjoy about it as well. What I do find arousing is the fact that it is something he doesn’t enjoy and reluctantly agreed to.
A few weeks ago, I gave him the option on his normal Sunday release. He could ejaculate tonight or wait four more days. The caveat of that offer is that an ejaculation tonight meant that he would need to ejaculate on my chest and lick me clean afterwards. With the previous reluctant conversation, I assumed this would be a difficult thing for him to agree to. I wrongfully assumed that I would have to bargain with more days until we finally settled on a proper “deal”. I usually don’t indulge in deal-making with him but I really wanted to get a gauge for how bad this was in his mind. To my dismay he smiled a little as I suggested it and readily agreed.
I got out my Hitachi Magic Wand (A girl’s best friend) and allowed him to watch me get myself off about three times before I offered him the key that is dangling between my breasts so he could unlock himself. I asked him to kneel beside the bed and masturbate while he looked at my body. After about two or three minutes, I could tell that he was getting close as he looked to me for permission to cum. I gave him a nod of approval and almost immediately he rolled his eyes back in his head and shot his week’s worth of goodness on me.
As his breathing slowed and he smiled from his weekly opportunity, he saw quite a mess on my chest and looked up in my eyes. I smiled and told him to please lick me clean. He asked if I was certain and I told him – of course I am. After a lick or two, I could tell that this wasn’t something that he was enjoying. Soon the warm mess had been cleaned from my chest but what had changed from just a few minutes prior? After locking him back up, we chatted about the experience as we usually do. I asked him why he hesitated? Had he changed his mind? He thought for a few moments and said that the idea sounded incredibly kinky before he came and he was absolutely willing to try whatever he could since it meant that he would have the opportunity to release. Once he ejaculated, all of those hormones that drive him to that end had left his body and stopped clouding his judgement. I can only assume that he saw the cleanup as a bit of an unappealing chore – perhaps along the lines of how I mentioned it earlier. I asked him if he wanted to do it next time and I could tell that he was far less interested now than the first time it had been discussed.
I do think that the symbolism of eating his ejaculate has some merit, I don’t think that this will be a normal thing for us. As Yoga Girl mentioned in a previous blog post, there is some benefit to the consuming of his ejaculate – hormones, nutrients, zinc and whatever else his body can attain from the recycling of fluids. This won’t likely be something that we do on a regular basis but we will almost certainly throw it into the mix from time to time.
You wrote “I don’t think that this will be a normal thing for us.” It’s been a few months, have you not done it since?
I think what I meant is that this isn’t part of our weekly schedule although we do it from time to time. He doesn’t enjoy it so this is something that we save for special occasions or when I feel like he really needs a jump start for his upcoming lockup period. Nearly every time he finishes inside me (a rare occurrence), he is responsible for the cleanup so I don’t want that to lose its impact.
I almost always finish inside but she won’t let me clean up. One of my most favorite fantasies is to have my partner ride me cow girl and then move up onto my face and allow me to clean up.
That’s a great fantasy and maybe she will humor you with it at some point if she chooses.
I think most guys would probably say the idea of it is wonderful – up until they actually release, and then actually need to begin the cleanup. But it’s also one of those things that reasserts her control and keep her in control, which is how we both like it. She has had me finish with my hand on her body and she can watch me lick it off her…or to ruin myself more than once and repeatedly clean her up…which is easier than after a full release.
That is true. He is always very interested until he actually releases and then it is like making him eat spoiled milk.
Until we started chastity, I had been eating my cum since a very long time. And I have eaten my other boyfriends’ too in the past. The key is to give it a good 10-15 minutes –which is why I used to ejaculate in a bowl (we had a few dedicated ones for this). Immediately after climax (penis orgasms, though not anal ones strangely enough), I feel the urge to disengage from sex and my own cum disgusts me. But wait 15 minutes and I want to gulp it all down.
However, since we now wait 7 days between my ejaculations, the cum smells horrible when its out and no amount of waiting has convinced me to eat it. I think it goes stale within (but I am no scientist so don’t trust me on this one!)
I read an article about vaginal fluids,according to scientists swallowing female discharge has many benefits for men’s health. Did you try this with your husband? Swallowing female fluids is a win win situation,men who retains enjoy pleasing their beloved ladies with cunnilingus,and women enjoy receiving this gift.
The Health Benefits of Going Down On a Woman – ATTN:
Benefits of Swallowing Vaginal Fluid During Intercourse – Health and LifeStyle
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I barely have done this but once, but I was growing in my cage while reading this article. I wonder what that means?
I meant to comment on this some time ago, and thought I had, but alas ….
Unless he already has a fetish for it, for a submissive man to want to consume his cum, it would likely be limited to concept of doing, albeit reluctantly, because it is something his Dominant partner likes and wants him to do for her.
“What I do find arousing is the fact that it is something he doesn’t enjoy and reluctantly agreed to.”
I know that you are careful not to characterize your relationship with Kevin as Domme/sub or FLR, but in a technical sense, one of you is in ultimate control of the other. Granted, it is in a beautiful loving way and from both parties can wallow in the beauty of it, but still it is D/s. Those of us men that give that gift of submission to our wives/girlfriends do so with a tremendous amount of trust that the things/feelings that are expected of us are for our own good and for the goodness of the relationship. In other words, we all have limits.
Ms. K. and I have been in our dynamic long enough to pretty much know our respective limits. If anything were to come up that pressed against those limits, we talk about them and either limit line moves, or the activity or the expected emotional headspace is abandoned.
I understand that there are MANY blogs and writings about the automatic expectation that a sub male is expected to eat an ejaculate he may produce. For us, it just so happens to currently be that Ms. K. does not find it an appealing thing for her to have me do, even though she clearly could, because it is not a limit of mine. Would I? If it was something that would please her, then of course yes. Would I want to? Probably not, but I’d do what I was instructed to do.
Like Kevin, the idea of being expected to is a sexy thought when we’re all revved up. Of course once we cum, it immediately turns into a “seemed like a good idea at the time”, but having been instructed to do so, not eating my cum wouldn’t be an option.
Whether it is cum eating, non-monogamy, exhibitionism, sharing our lifestyle openly with others, punishments, sucking another man’s cock, etc., having something expected of me because I know it pleases my Wife is entirely different than performing those things for the sake of doing them.
“I do think that the symbolism of eating his ejaculate has some merit, I don’t think that this will be a normal thing for us.”
This pretty much sums up the current state of our relationship too. The journey takes us on a road. That roads has turns and twists and intersections to other roads. What a great life we are fortunate to lead.
Another excellent blog Emma. Thank you.